First off, remember the golden ruleIf you cant say anything nice don’t say anything at all.”  

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But doesn’t that sometimes just feel like you are the one getting short changed?

Doesn’t it just sometimes feel like those mean, negative nellies and neds need to be put in their place, and have one massive karmic review done? 

Trust me when I say, this one was hard for me. I was challenged big time on this one going through a difficult divorce and also making the decision to pursue my love of writing + coaching. 

The divorce situation if almost understandable(albeit frustrating), but why the coaching and writing? Why would people be negative about that?

Why would anyone be negative towards you when you decide to chase your dreams, speak your truth,and  live your passions? 

Because it stirs up their fears, their insecurities, and their wounds. If they are bashing what you are doing, and picking on you—chances are they see you stepping into your light, and they notice how they have allowed their own light to be dimmed.

There are going to be those that try to knock you down—always.

When we, as entrepreneurs—CHOOSE to spread our wings and GO FOR IT—it can stir up stuff in others. 

It’s not you.  It’s not about you.  

And it really doesn’t matter what they think about you.

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What they think of you is not the point. How you react to negativity—in any form—is the point.

The truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth is that—you got rise above it. You’ve got to let it go. You’ve got to pull a Ghandi and CHOOSE THE HIGHER ROAD.

Even though it can feel like a pesky little dog bitting at your heels, you gotta find a way to set healthy boundaries, and to not attach to the negativity—that is what most of them want.

They want to prod you enough until you bite back. They want your energy.

They want to prove that you really aren’t that committed, really aren’t that clear and really aren’t that focused.

Don’t let the energy vampires drain your light, your truth, your power. Don’t do it.

This doesn’t mean ignoring it and not standing up for yourself, but it does mean not engaging in unhealthy reactions. You can speak your truth in a calm, clear, grounded way and transcend the unhealthy pattern of being reactive towards negativity.

Your mantra in a tough situation would go like this . . .

 “Right now, right here, I have two choices. I can choose to react, engage and let this throw me off track, or I can allow the feelings, recognize them, and CHOOSE to let it go. I choose to feel good.”

The secret to all this is that once you master this, all the sudden these people go away. It’s like the universe popping in every now and then, to see if you have this lesson handled. The less you react and engage, the less they will be biting at your heels. 

Try it for 30 days and see what happens. Choose to react differently.

Leave a comment below and let me know how you deal with difficult people! 

xxoo

Carrie

p.s. Song recommendation:  Blind Melon—No Rain.