I asked this question on my Facebook page a few days ago and many people joined in. The most common answers were family, friends and life experiences.
Not surprising, really.
Even though we live in a culture of excess, when it comes right down to it, what we really value most are those things that give us a sense of connection, pleasure and meaning.
What we value tends to be interchangeable with what we are passionate about, what drives us and lights our fire.
It’s not always about the cars, the clothes, and the material things, although that is what our society largely pushes and praises. Yes, those things can provide us with enjoyment and there is a certain value in having nice things, but they aren’t on the top of the list when it comes to what we value the most.
It’s not to say there is anything wrong with valuing money. Prosperity and abundance are things I value, because I know that money can have a huge impact on my health, my time, and experiences I have with my family.
What you value is really a very clear indication of not only who you are, but what’s important to focus on in order to be truly fulfilled. If you value spending time in nature, but aren’t doing it, you will feel off and disconnected. If you value spending time with your kids and aren’t doing it, you will feel like something is missing.
Life gives us clues, both large and small, when we are out of sync with what we love—what we value. Boredom, depression, illness, relationship issues, recurring problems are just a few of the clues that might come our way when we get off track with our values.
Paying attention to what you value in life is critical to living a meaningful life. Creating a life you love, is really all about learning to make the right choices. And making the right choices is how we can start the process of manifesting or getting what we want in life by being masters of our thoughts and feelings. The right choice(s) being those things that get you closer to having what you value in your life.
Here a few quick tips on how to get clear about your values and how you can use that awareness to manifest whatever you desire in your life—better health, prosperity, happiness, or more time with family and friends.
- Make a list of the top 5 things you value the most
- Now be really real with yourself—how much are you paying attention to these things? How much time and energy do you spend nurturing these values?
- If you feel like you aren’t putting enough time into some of your values, make a list of things you can do to change that. What choices can you make today, to bring more of those things you value into your life?
- If there are things that you value on your list that you do feel you pay attention to and you don’t feel out of balance with, then celebrate that! Give yourself credit. I know it may seem dorky, but when you can get into a place of appreciation and gratitude for what you HAVE created, then that just sends the signal to the universe for more of that. Appreciation in any area of our life sets the stage for abundance to flow in all directions. The better you feel, the more good stuff you will attract into your experience.
And most of all, have fun and enjoy. We don’t get into a space of ninja manifesting by stressing, beating ourselves up or being overly rigid about things.
Love yourself more.
Ciao, fellow choice makers!
Quick video about choice strategy, what it is and why it benefits us. Choice strategy is all about being conscious of our choices and then using them to design a life we love—a life of health, prosperity, happiness and growth.
Our choices = our life. If we can learn how to be ninja choice makers, we can live life on our own terms. We can feel inspired, joyful, grounded and in our truths.
It’s the way to live. Say yes! Choose you and a life that has fullness and meaning.
Wherever you are, enjoy your day. Leave a comment, and let me know how you are choosing wiser to live larger.
I fess up. I am guilty of judging. I think we all do, or have at some point in our lives.
There is part of it that feels like a natural process of discovering what we want. It is how we are able to decide and CHOOSE what it is that we like, or dislike in life.
But when does a simple observation about something turn negative or harmful?
An observation turns to a negative judgment when we hold ourselves “above” another based on our observations. It is taking our observation of something or someone and labeling it as wrong, bad, morally corrupt, weak, lazy, and any other terms that might elicit a negative response or feeling.
Hmmmm . . . but isn’t there a tiny shred of value in that, at times?
Isn’t it a factual statement that a person that is honorable and does good things, is kind and considerate, is labeled as a “better” person than someone that is cruel, abusive and corrupt?
Isn’t that a judgment?
The entire concept of judgment seems to carry many mixed messages.
Who can, beyond a shadow of a doubt, prove that one persons version of “right” is more right than anothers?
Maybe right and wrong is just a personal thing and when we start to place our version of what we think is right or wrong on another—that is where the trouble begins.
As the saying goes, live and let live. Right?
But, that is one of those sayings that is easy to say and not so easy for most to live.
Why? Because most humans think that their way is the right way. So what is the solution?
The solution is to not be attached to our version of what is right and wrong. To not make others wrong for their beliefs. To let go of negative judgments and allow others to live their truths.
One smaller scale solution is to not beat ourselves up when we judge and seek discernment about it.
Only you can be the judge of when a mere observation turns into a negative for you.
One thing I ask myself when I find myself in judgment is I turn it around and ask myself if it’s something I really am judging about myself, or something I fear that others might judge me for.
Sometimes, judgment is the best form of self reflection. It’s the “when you point the finger, you have 3 pointing right back at you” concept.
Judging , in my opinion turns against us when we use it as an excuse to NOT be our best selves. When we hide behind it to stay stuck stay in our wounds, our false perceptions, and our weaknesses.
Perhaps by seeing contrasting things, or things we might label as wrong, negative or horrible, we are able to have more clarity and certainty about what we love. But it seem that a little bit of judgment seeps into that process.
I believe that we are here to enjoy life. To choose to remember our common bond that we all share, no matter what our perceived differences are—that we walk the same planet together. We all feel. We all breathe. We are all in this together, no matter what our differences.
Choose Love. Choose to let go of negative judgments that hold you back from being the best version of you. Choose to feel good, because that is what keeps you in a space of manifesting health, wealth, happiness and your desires.
Please leave a comment and let me know your take on judgment or observation. What do you think?
The three M’s . . .
These are a few of my favorite topics. It didn’t used to be that way though.
My relationship with money has not always been so rosy. I had never really felt authentically in touch with money, until I really understood and practiced the art of manifesting.
I think the topic of money is a touchy subject for most people.
We can begin to shift our relationship with money by using the power of manifesting.
Most people view money as hard to come by, hard to earn and somewhat untouchable.
There is a common viewpoint that it just takes something special to be comfortable financially. There is also the common belief that you really have to struggle and work super hard for many years to be able to have and keep a substantial amount of money.
Why is that and how can we change that?
Our main beliefs about money, and anything for that matter are a large result of where we are raised, who raised us and our primary social beliefs about money. And whatever we believe about money, is what we will attract. A belief is just a thought about something that we choose to believe as true. We choose to accept it as the truth.
What we choose to believe, think and feel = our reality (for the most part).
What if we were all raised to believe that money was easy to make, easy to come by and enjoyable! What if our primary beliefs about money were positive? Think there would be less poverty and more abundance?
You see, manifesting is simply the art of lining up our energy (our feelings, thoughts, beliefs + actions) to be a match to what we desire. So, if we want more money in our lives, we have to change the way we think, feel and relate to money.
If we think money is bad, and that is is morally wrong to have too much of it, then chances are, we will never attract much of it. What we think (primarily) and what we get, are most often, an energetic match.
Now, there are exceptions and there are situations when it appears someone has positive beliefs about money and they they have some sort of crisis about it.
For example, I studied and practiced the law of attraction and manifesting for many years. We were doing really well financially and then our world collapsed with the 2007-08 US financial downturn. I was in shock and disbelief. How could this happen? I had really positive beliefs about money.
Or did I?
When I was honest with myself, I discovered that my deep seated beliefs about prosperity, were not so positive. I had a great deal of fear about losing the money we had. And guess what, we lost it.
I knew that if I wanted to have an honest and healthy relationship with money, I needed to choose to think and feel differently about it.
The good news is that in a matter of 12 months, we got it all back, and then some. Along with the prosperity piece of it, came a sense of knowing and faith that prosperity would always be in our lives. And, it just keeps getting better.
I know that money does not buy happiness, but it can ease a lot of struggles. Money is definitely not the means to happiness and it can make our lives more comfortable and enjoyable if we have a healthy relationship with it.
Here are 4 simple coaching strategies that I use to help people get started with improving their relationship with money.
- Mediate about money. I am serious. I used to strongly dislike meditating (all that sitting around was so boring and unproductive), but it has been the most MASSIVE gift. Meditating quiets the brain so we can actually feel. In order to shift our relationship with money, we have to understand how we really feel about it. Our feelings are our strongest indicators of our true beliefs….always.
- Once you have identified your primary feelings and thoughts about money—write them down. Get really conscious about these feelings and beliefs.
- Pick the ones you really want to tackle and shift. Be realistic. Choose the ones you really believe you can change. If you think this is dumb, or unreachable, it won’t work. To change it, you have to at least believe it a little bit.
- Now create a little mantra or meditation around those unwanted beliefs and affirm to yourself and the universe that they no longer serve you and you desire to replace them with positive, affirming money beliefs. I know this can seem a bit woo-woo, but its important to choose to let those beliefs go. It can go something like this ” I choose to let go of these beliefs that no longer serve me” or ” I no longer choose to believe that making money is hard or that having money is evil.” Now believe that your choice to let it go is being answered. Believe it. Know it. Feel it.
- Now create a new list of positive thoughts and feelings about money. These will replace the ones you just let go of! If you can’t think of anything, just create a list of a few things you can do that you enjoy, and that raise your vibration. Do these things when you are having those negative money feelings come up, just acknowledge they are there and then get in a good feeling place. Feeling good is the key to being a manifesting ninja (plus the action part!!!)
Commit to this for at least 2 weeks. Do your best. We didn’t develop our negative beliefs overnight, so be easy on yourself, but know that it can and will shift if you commit and believe that it will.
Remember, creating what you want in life starts with a choice. Creating the exact wealth you want, starts with a choice.
One of the biggest buzz words flying around in the online world, coaching world, and personal success world is the
concept of being authentic.
The gist is that if we are just our 100% authentic selves, then that will somehow skyrocket our lives and businesses.
Umm . . how do I say this without sounding like a big “B”? I would venture to guess that in a majority of cases, it is actually the persons authentic, real self that is getting in the way of having an amazing life and business. There, I said it.
Being authentic and real might not be the best thing in some cases and could in fact be having a negative impact in our lives.
We could be authentically, mean. Authentically depressed. Authentically narcissistic. Authentically wounded. Just because it is real, doesn’t mean it is good, right or the best thing for you.
Sometimes you have to change, grow and evolve, so that your authentic self is the one that works for you, not against you.
My authentic self, at one point was not so amazing. My authentic self was insecure, negative, guilt ridden and just not very happy . . . to say the least.
I was a person that studied self -help and spiritual concepts to the point of overload and still was not getting what I was looking for.
That was the real, authentic me.
So how is that of value to myself or anyone? I know that people might argue that the real meaning of our authentic selves is that part of us that is connected to Source, God–whatever word works for you. But I think it is actually just inferred, more often than explained.
Being authentic in the best sense means working on your shit. There, I said it.
Being authentic means you operate from a place of awareness and consciousness, not old wounds, negative beliefs, or patterns.
If I kept hoping that my authentic self was going to make everything better, I might not be alive to be writing this post. My authentic, real self needed a massive makeover and couldn’t help others until she helped herself.
Being authentic isn’t enough. Because sometimes our authentic self is wounded, hurt, caught up in negative patterns or habits.
Yes, let’s be real. Yes, let’s be authentic. But lets be these things from a space of awareness, consciousness, growth and expansion.
Let’s not use this word and the concept as an excuse to stay stuck.
If we aren’t living the life we truly want and aren’t experiencing the success in life that we desire, then we are not operating with a healthy, well-adjusted authentic self.
That God- like part of us wouldn’t choose that for ourselves. It would choose abundance, healing, joy, connection, confidence and clarity.
There is no way we can help others, or make a positive impact in the world, if we havent first worked through our “stuff.”
Choose to work on you first. Choose to be consciously authentic.
As Abe-Hicks says “Life is supposed to be fun.”
Carrie Jolie Dale