The Choice to Change

The Choice to Change

Please check out my article that was recently featured on The Change Blog.    choice-to-change

It’s all about how we can change anything—with the power and gift of choice. 

We can have all the content, all the information and all the latest, greatest self-help, inspirational and how-to books on our bookshelves, but if we aren’t CHOOSING to implement, practice and actually DO those things, then nothing will change.

In order to change, we have to make a conscious choice to change. 

Check out the full post here—The Choice to Change

Graciously + lovingly,

Carrie Jolie

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The Myth of Feeling Good all the Time

The Myth of Feeling Good all the Time

In the quest to manifest things—to get what we want in life by learning to use our energy to attract things to us—we often hear that we need to just feel good.             feelreal-default

Ok, so that can be a bit confusing, because the fact is—there will be times when it doesn’t feel good. 

There will be times when it is confusing, sad, scary, uncomfortable and challenging.

In the quest to go for your dreams, live true to yourself and manifest your desires, the soul will experience some growing pains.

You may not want to write that blog post, change your eating habits, react differently to people who trigger you or have that difficult talk with your spouse. But in the end, by doing these things and moving through the intital discomfort, you may get closer to a deeper sense of feeling good. 

Does it feel good to get on stage and overcome your fear of public speaking? No!  But in order to achieve that next level you may want to go to in your life—it may be necessary to go through that fear and come out the other end with an increased confidence.

You willingly go through the discomfort to reap the reward on the other side. 

Having the healthy body you really want may require that you give up some bad habits to get the result you want. It may require you change your diet, exercise more and change your beliefs about health. You may have to sweat a bit (literally) to get to that better feeling place in your life. 

Would it be easier to sit on the coach and eat potato-chips? Mmmm….maybe in that instant. But on another more conscious level, you know that what would be better for you would be to get your butt off the coach, go for a walk, choose something healthy to eat and ditch the junk food.

Where many people get off track with this idea (to just feel good no matter what) is that they confuse feeling good from a short-term, instant gratification viewpoint, with a long-term, more conscious, deep level of feeling good. Or they believe that they have to fake how they feel and force being happy. This isn’t about faking it.

Be real about how you feel, then move towards raising your vibration by feeling better. 

The point it—it’s not always easy, and it doesn’t always feel good.

We resist change. We fight it. We tend to want to do what is easier. Do we want easy, or do we want lasting joy? Do we want easy or meaningful? 

Struggle is not a requirement, but it may be a part of it when you are pushing up against some big goals, changes or intentions.

Keep the focus on feeling real and feeling better. Just keep reaching for ways to feel better that will serve you long-term and support your goals and intentions.

Choosing our thoughts, feelings and actions is what it’s all about. Having choice is what gives us creative freedom in our lives. If you want something that isn’t coming to you—choose differently. That is all it takes.

In gratitude!

xo

Carrie