I SAY BOTH!!! For those of you who don’t know what my subject title it all about—those are both brands of SHOES.
I am sure most of you know about Birkenstocks—the earthy, hippy sandal that has made quite the comeback (actually, they have probably never went away).
And for you luxury lovers—Louboutins are a stand out brand in the luxury line.
These two different brands of shoes couldn’t be more different.
One, is the optime of the earthy, hippy sort of scene and the other is a brand is the creme de la creme in the luxury world. One speaks of comfort, practicalilty, and down-to-earthness. And the other is a brand of sexy, sassy and luxury ( and not so comfy).
Why am I writing about shoes?
Well, I happen to own both brands and I love them equally. And I felt a little weird about that for a while. Like I needed to choose one “camp” to be in.
I either needed to be an earthy, nature loving, granola eating, tree huggin’, Birkenstock wearer.
Or, I needed to embrace the luxurious, sensual, grown and worldly Louboutin clan.
I felt like I needed to make up my mind about who I was and get on with it.
And then I stopped and realized how utterly silly I was being. Who cares! Who cares if we don’t fit into a box? Who cares if we fit into several boxes?
Who cares if we choose to fit into no box and just be free.
This isn’t really just a post about shoes. It’s a post about the truth of who we are. Our most authentic, real, naked, unabashed selves.
The ones who don’t care about labels, boxes, and fitting in here or there. The ones who don’t get caught up in worrying about being a tree hugging’, earth loving, animal loving, luxury loving human.
Just because we love and stand for one thing, doesn’t mean we have to turn our backs on other things, that we enjoy.
I see this often in the self help/spiritual world. People feel that it is somehow not spiritual and materialistic to have nice things, to desire nice clothes, travel and the finer things in life.
And I say, to each their own, but that is not a box I choose to put myself in any longer.
I think you can have the awareness and consciousness to be a high vibration person in the world, work for change and consciousness and ALSO enjoy nice things in life.
After all, we do live in a material plane. We aren’t air. We are matter. We are material our selves, so why wouldn’t we enjoy (not covet, or hoard) the material things in life?
For me, living this life of honoring my earthy, spiritual self and also enjoying the material pleasure and beauty of life, I call being a Barefoot Belle.
Barefoot……being the part that is obviously barefoot, but for me this signifies connection to earth + nature, free, unabashed, pure and spiritual.
Belle…..being the french word for “beautiful” and to me, signifies culture, beauty, luxury, savior-faire and our earthly delights.
Being a Barefoot Belle is actually about being grounded and rooted in who we are (our natural selves ) and also honoring what we love. That can be nice shoes, nice meals, nice cars, travel, spa days, organic food, charity work, nature . . . whatever it is for you.
And we can love nice things, material things and still be consciousness and aware. It doesn’t mean we are fake, superficial or somehow less spiritual to enjoy the finer things in life.
Not all all.
What we think, feel and do are all choices. They are choices that influence our vibration and our vibration is what determines what comes to us in life.
In fact, it means that we are just enjoying more, which is spiritual and which is aware.
So , maybe you are a vegan who happens to really like leather shoes, maybe you are a big environmentalist who also loves to travel. Maybe you are earthy and stylish.
I don’t think we need to be so hard on ourselves. I think we can let go of the labels, the boxes and our need to compartmentalize our lives and our selves.
It’s ok to just really choose who we are—guilt free.
“A certain darkness is needed to see the stars.”
I love this quote and at the same time, it triggers me a bit.
What the quote means to me, is that we need a bit of darkness (pain, struggle, challenges) in order to see the light (the good stuff)
There is that part of me that doesn’t want to think that we need to feel pain and go into the darkness, in order to see the light and to experience the beauty of life.
And is it required? Do we have to experience what we may define as dark or bad in order to experience the opposite of that?
Yes, I believe so. But the beauty is that we don’t have to stay there. We may not be able to control what happens to us, but we can control how we feel about it, what we think about it and how we react to it.
I do think part of our human experience is the inherent need for contrast. Contrast meaning experiencing one thing, so we know another.
Feeling pain so we can know health. Feeling sad so we can know happy.
I think being able to see and feel things that seem to be at opposite ends of the spectrum, can help us to understand, know and appreciate the part of the spectrum that we like.
In other words, I think we can use things we may feel are our dark times in order to know the light even more profoundly.
When you can finally grasp that moment of clarity about pain and hardship, you are free.
You are fee because you can see pain and darkness for what it is–a great and strong teacher.
A great and powerful reminder of what you love + what is good for you. The shitty things can be super powerful reminders to get back on track and back in the saddle to what truly feeds your soul.
Darkness + hard times can be great teachers if you CHOOSE to see it that way.
You can also choose to use things in your life which are painful and challenging as excuses to hold you back.
You can tell yourself that life is hard, so why try.
You can tell yourself you had a hard childhood, so that is why you can’t make money.
You can tell yourself you aren’t good at relationships because someone hurt you.
You can even blame it on the stars.
You can choose to let your darkness define you, or you can choose to let your darkness refine you.
You can choose to rise above whatever happened to you, however you feel and let it go, learn from it and appreciate it.
You can choose to let the dark times, light you up even more brightly.
I was adopted. I had a massive brain injury at the age of 4. I felt like an outsider most my life. I heard and saw things as a child, that I now know were psychic and intuitive abilities bubbling in me, but I labeled as weird. I hit rock bottom. I went through an ugly, high conflict divorce. I lived in guilt, shame and sorrow for many years. I lost hope. I considered ending it.
And then I chose to see my darkness as the great and very lucid teacher that it is.
And I chose to live life even more fully.
To hang out with my kids as long as possible, rather than rushing off to do some seemingly important thing, that could never actually match the importance of being with my girls. I chose to listen to the sound of the birds even more closely. I chose to hug more. I chose to eat what I wanted, guilt free. I chose to let it go. I chose to say what was on my mind and in my heart. I chose to let go of the fear, worry and pain that I felt was always working against me . . . and appreciate it for teaching me to enjoy my life even more deeply than before.
Thank you, darkness, for showing me just how bright those stars can shine.
And for you, a loving reminder that whatever it is that hurts you, makes you feel less than or seems to hold you back from living your life full throttle, is really just a beautiful reminder of what is possible. The things you may label as “bad, dark, horrible, messy” they can actually be stepping stones to your greatness, your power and your place to shine brightly.
This is gonna be short + sweet.
People ask me all the time what I use to take care of myself—supplements, exercise, skin care products + other things.
The funny thing is, that I will share these things with people and then they don’t follow through or use them.
So, my advice is if you want it work, you gotta work it. In other words, if you want to SEE and FEEL the results, you gotta commit.
You have to CHOOSE healthy skin, radiant body, and energetic life.
Here are my must haves—
- Vitamin D
- Krill Oil
- A good multi vitamin. I use prograde 25+
The brand I use for the first 6 products is Mercola and the Multi-vitamin, I get from a company called Prograde.
- Arcona—there isn’t a product of theirs that I don’t like
- Skincueticals—I use their sunscreen, primarily, but have also used the CE Ferulic. It is really expensive though. There is a knock off brand, that some people swear is the same thing, called Cosmetic Skin Solutions
- I do a mixture of tabata, high intensity interval training and yoga
- This is last, but not least! I meditate at least 5 minutes a day and have some kind of regular spiritual practice. It can be committing to a book, something like A Course in Miracles, or being consistent about doing things that FEED my soul (nature, having fun, laughing, getting regular massages, etc)
If you want to feel + look healthy, you can try my list, or come up with your own. Before I got into writing and being a spiritual guide + coach, I was a health coach, so I know this topic very well and have done a ton of research.
If you can’t afford all the supplements above, then just start with one or two and then rotate. My top 3 from that list would be a good multi, then ubiquinol or COQ10 and vitamin D. You could do that for a few months, then take out the vitamin D and ubiquinol and add in astaxanthin/chlorella… then just keep switching.
You can do the same with the skincare. Just try a product here or there and then rotate new things in.
Anyway, this is how I stay healthy, both spiritually and physically.
And, health, like so many things in life—is a choice. It’s a choice to care for our bodies, or not. It’s a choice to commit to a daily meditation practice, which is, among many other things, free! If you just did that one thing, alone, you would see massive shifts in your health and well-being.
I sincerely hope these things add value and radiant health to your life!
“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.”
Wow, did this Maya Angelou quote jump out at me today!
Not that I am equating myself to a butterfly, because I still have my moments when I feel like I am still in the caterpillar stage (and that’s not such a bad thing!)
But today is the birth of my first book and it has me a bit reflective (and nervous!)
The journey really started about 10 years ago, when I took a trip to Brazil for spiritual healing and has been, as the saying goes— a real trip since then.
As I see the posts going about the book, I feel deep gratitude, a bit of nervousness and mostly happy. There are tears and there are butterflies (of excitement, of course!)
And, I know this is just a transition, a metamorphosis, another twist and turn in the story.
Today is the day I get to celebrate the growth, the struggle, the triumphs and the days I just wanted to give up.
But I knew I had 2 choices—to sink or to soar.
Soaring feels much better—even with all the tough patches in between. Because it really is about what we learn along the way, as cliche as it sounds.
So . . . SOAR. And soar some more.
Be relentless in your pursuit to be happy, to come out of your cocoon, your safe haven and celebrate your own transformation into the beautiful soul that you are.
Ok, so for today, I will see myself as the butterfly. Feels good!
Here is the link to the book details! Thanks so much to each and everyone of you for your support and well wishes.
Much, much love,
I know meditation is a 10 letter word, but for many of us (who abhor sitting still for long) it’s more like a 4 letter word.
You feel me?
I tried for YEARS to fall in love with meditation. I tried to find inner peace, harmony and tranquility with this simple little practice.
And I just felt predominately bored, irritated, anoyed and frustrated from doing it.
Until . . . . I found the 3-minute meditation that has changed how I feel about meditating and more importantly—has shifted my life in miraculous ways.
(If you aren’t into woo-woo, then you probably won’t like this, but if you aren’t into trying new things, you probably won’t get different results either . . . just saying.)
Here is what you need:
- Quiet, distraction-free space for 3-minutes
- A candle or some other item that makes you feel centered and grounded. We are aiming to create a ritual, so choose something that makes you feel good.
- A clock or timer
- Commitment to put your very best into this 3 minutes
- Set an intention either in your mind or on paper for what you want to accomplish in this 3 minutes. Maybe it’s to prepare for a great day, an answer to a problem, money, healing for the world , health, love. . whatever you choose is perfect!
While this mantra/meditation is primarily used for abundance and prosperity, I have seen it create shifts in other areas as well. After all, abundance doesn’t only equate to money, it also corresponds to an abundance of love, health, joy and ________(insert your own word!)
Here is how you set up:
- Sit cross legged, bent knees or whatever feels comfortable, but preferably sitting upright
- Light your candle or focus on your grounding object just to bring you fully into the moment
- Take 3-5 deep breaths and let go of any stress or tension
- Your eyes are 9/10th’s of the way open, but your gaze is toward the tip of your nose. With the gaze at the tip of the nose, we connect with our root chakra and stimulate Kundalini. It also stimulates the frontal lobe part of the brain. It is a soft, gentle gaze.
Here is the video for the 3-minute meditation/chant:
I hope you enjoyed this post and that it helps you get closer to a life you love and that lights you up. We are, after all, meant to enjoy the heck out of our lives. Why not?!!
It’s the day after Christmas and here I sit nursing a pretty bad cold.
I am mostly a huge baby when it comes to being sick…there is nothing I dislike more than not feeling my best. The good news is that it doesn’t happen very often, because I have an arsenal of good things that I practice in order to ward off colds and keep my immune system ramped up.
Here is what I do for prevention:
- Get 8 hours of sleep a night ( I know I include this in every list…because it’s critical!)
- Eat well, avoid all the crap we know we aren’t supposed to put in our bodies.
- Keep alcohol to a minimum, or none at all
- Stay strong emotionally and spiritually.
- Smile, laugh. Do things that keep our vibration up ( see previous blog posts about this)
- During the cold season, I ramp on on certain supplements. I use zinc, vitamin C and an immune support formula I get from Mercola.com
- Meditate! The following video is the meditation and mantra I use to keep my immune system strong.
If you are already sick, continue with the above list and REST!
Ask your spiritual guides for assistance in moving the imbalance out of your body. You can also see the illness or imbalance as a teacher.
Being sick or imbalanced offers us contrast. Contrast is—in most general terms—the unwanted things that we manifest in our lives. Theses unwanted things, while annoying, irritating and inconvenient, offer us the opportunity to learn, to grow, to evolve and to become ninja choice makers and masters of manifesing what we want in our lives.
Contrast gives us the opportunity to become even more practiced at the art of gratitude, focusing on what we want (even though it’s not the reality that’s manifesting for us) and helping us to be even more discriminating about our thoughts and feelings. It’s becoming more aware of the health we desire, when we are sick. It’s the awareness of the wealth we want, when money problems appear. It’s yearning for happiness when we feel down.
If you learn to be ok with whatever contrast that life is throwing your way—illness, arguing with your partner, bad drivers, issues at work, kids that won’t listen to you, money problems—you will at least have mastered the art of feeling ok, no matter what!
And that’s a win for you. In my humble opinion, life is supposed to be enjoyable and we are meant to be happy, fulfilled and prosperous.
Try to take whatever bummer situation you may find yourself in and turn it into a positive in your life. It’s the old concept of finding the silver lining in any situation.
Please leave a comment and let me know your thoughts about this post! Love to get feeedback from my readers.
Much love and appreciation,