Because it’s so (bleeping) exhausting, that is why.
Some people are just born rosy, doesn’t it seem that way?
I stared to feel like being happy was a lot of work rather than just a by product of a great life.
Then I realized that my definition of happy was all messed up and wrong (and that societies is in general).
I realized that I had created an ideal of what happy should look like, that was inauthentic.
Happiness, I thought, looked more like a hallmark card than my life. And, I felt like something was wrong with me because my life didn’t look like that.
As soon as I let go of that stick and stopped chasing happy, I discovered a more real, true and deeper understanding of what being happy is all about.
So why do we try so hard and what is wrong with NOT feeling happy all the time? Why does it matter if we are grouchy and annoyed? Are we somehow less spiritual, less together and just LESS THAN, if we feel negative emotion?
Negative emotion can be a great thing, because it tells us that something is out of whack in our lives.
Cramming antidepressants down our throats to run from what we really feel, is not the answer and will end up slowly killing us in the end.
We are made to feel. Not just happy, but all the other things as well.
We are made to feel pain, regret, shame, sadness, elation and embarrassment.
They are our indicators that something needs attention.
You have road rage and underneath that is that you just want a break. You want a couple days to unplug and unwind. You want to breathe.
You feel like crying at the drop of a hat because you haven’t discussed something that has been bugging you in your love relationship. You crave connection.
You feel tired every time you go to work because . . you hate your job! You want a career that you feel passionate about.
Ad the list goes on.
When we get really, really real about how we feel, that is when the magic can take place in our lives. That is when we can stop trying to reach some idealistic BS hallmark version of happy and just be. This is where the magic of manifesting takes place. You can’t manifest things from a place of forcing or faking it.
You manifest things from a place of being real, authentic and learning how to incrementally raise your vibration.
Just being and just feeling are the keys to real happiness, because when we allow the truth of how we feel to come through—we allow who we are to be present in the world. And when we allow the truth of who are in the world—we no longer need to hide, and to feel all those feelings that we may label as bad.
Feelings are our helpers— there to let us know we just gotta feel it, talk to it, surrender to it, love it, love it some more, hug a friend and then be with it.
Ultimately, like almost everything else, how we feel is a choice. We choose to feel happy from a real place, or we choose it from a fake place, which really isn’t feeling—it’s acting.
Stop chasing happy and just be. The happy will show up.
I know meditation is a 10 letter word, but for many of us (who abhor sitting still for long) it’s more like a 4 letter word.
You feel me?
I tried for YEARS to fall in love with meditation. I tried to find inner peace, harmony and tranquility with this simple little practice.
And I just felt predominately bored, irritated, anoyed and frustrated from doing it.
Until . . . . I found the 3-minute meditation that has changed how I feel about meditating and more importantly—has shifted my life in miraculous ways.
(If you aren’t into woo-woo, then you probably won’t like this, but if you aren’t into trying new things, you probably won’t get different results either . . . just saying.)
Here is what you need:
- Quiet, distraction-free space for 3-minutes
- A candle or some other item that makes you feel centered and grounded. We are aiming to create a ritual, so choose something that makes you feel good.
- A clock or timer
- Commitment to put your very best into this 3 minutes
- Set an intention either in your mind or on paper for what you want to accomplish in this 3 minutes. Maybe it’s to prepare for a great day, an answer to a problem, money, healing for the world , health, love. . whatever you choose is perfect!
While this mantra/meditation is primarily used for abundance and prosperity, I have seen it create shifts in other areas as well. After all, abundance doesn’t only equate to money, it also corresponds to an abundance of love, health, joy and ________(insert your own word!)
Here is how you set up:
- Sit cross legged, bent knees or whatever feels comfortable, but preferably sitting upright
- Light your candle or focus on your grounding object just to bring you fully into the moment
- Take 3-5 deep breaths and let go of any stress or tension
- Your eyes are 9/10th’s of the way open, but your gaze is toward the tip of your nose. With the gaze at the tip of the nose, we connect with our root chakra and stimulate Kundalini. It also stimulates the frontal lobe part of the brain. It is a soft, gentle gaze.
Here is the video for the 3-minute meditation/chant:
I hope you enjoyed this post and that it helps you get closer to a life you love and that lights you up. We are, after all, meant to enjoy the heck out of our lives. Why not?!!
It is truly amazing what happens when a group of conscious people come together for the purpose of personal growth, healing and stepping into beauty and truth. I just got back from an event in San Diego with some dear friends and one of my mentors—that’s us in the picture!
This event was inspiring, to say the least.
My biggest take away from this experience was a newfound love for setting intentions.
What’s an intention?
An intention is defined as: noun 1. a thing intended; an aim or plan.
And taking that even further and deeper into a spiritual or personal growth level—an intention is a personal statement of what you desire or intend to create in your day, your present moment and even for the overall scope of your life. An intention is somewhat of a personal mission statement. It’s a way to affirm to the universe exactly what you desire.
Here is a brief list of things you can do to set intentions that will get you on track to creating what you want in your life:
- Identify what feels like the most important thing for you—is it better health, more money, improved relationships, feeling better about your outlook on life, getting a book deal, selling your home?
- What would be your ideal result with the intention you choose?
- Write down your intention in the form of a statement. For example, “It is my intention to…..earn 6 figures this year, close this deal today, enjoy exercising, get the most out of an event you are attending, manifest money to take a trip you have been wanting to take.
- What would having this result or outome feel like to you? Identify how having this intention come true would feel.
- Turning intentions into reality has a lot to do with how well and how conneted you are to what you desire. Choose things that you know and feel to be in alignment with your highest truth and that just feel really delicious to you.
- Be specific about your intentions. Infuse all your senses into it…taste, smell, sight, touch, hearing, intuition.
- Celebrate when your intentions become reality! Let the universe know that you appreciate being heard and that you acknowledge the power of intention.
- Be consistent and do this often! In order to make a significant change in your life, you have to CHOOSE to commit to doing things differently. That starts with taking 5 minutes a day to write down your intentions and staying connected to them throughout the day, month, year…..your life!
It’s often the little things that can make the biggest differences in our lives and setting clear, powerful, consistent intentions is one way to make that big difference. Choosing an intention is, in effect, choosing your vibration and choosing what energy you put out in the world. It’s making a conscious choice in what you want each moment to feel and look like. It’s another great tool to use in the quest to manifest a life you love.
p.s. I am opening a 3 spots for private coaching and VIP days. E-mail firstname.lastname@example.org to schedule your personal energetic match assessment. xo
I know. I get it. I really, really get it. I hid for so many years. I was afraid to step into my power, my passion + my inherent divine prosperity.
And then I knew that to stay in that place would eventually end up killing me. I made a choice, no matter what to come out of my shell and shine.
How many of us come up with all kinds of excuses why we CAN’T do something? We can’t because we are too busy. We can’t because we don’t have enough money. We can’t because we are tired. We can’t because we don’t know how.
Can’t is a four letter word and if you want to be happy and manifest a life that you love—then you gotta get rid of the “I can’t” belief.
You are the one choosing what to think and how to feel. And with that awareness and that consciousness, you can shape your life.
Want health? Then think mainly healthy thoughts and feel healthy feelings. Want wealth? Then think and feel in ways that line up with wealth consciousness. Want love? Be loving! Whatever it is you desire to manifest—you get there by learning to master your choice of thoughts and feelings.
We are all energy and the energy and vibration you put out in the world, is largely the energy you will get back from the world. This is manifesting 101 and it’s the base of it all. If you truly desire to step into a sense of feeling powerful, passionate and prosperous in your life—it starts with the very real point of learning to be in control (even though I don’t like that word) of your thoughts and feelings. In other words, you run them, they don’t run you.
When you can get to that place, you will see a world of passion, prosperity and power (conscious power) open up to you.
Or……you will just feel better and enjoy your life and that’s what it’s all about!
p.s. I will be a bit off the grid for the next 2 weeks. I am heading to San Diego to spend a week with my mentor, Tara Marino and a group of women I have been in a mastermind group with for the last 9 months. I will share pictures and insights from the road, but may not be around as much as I ususally am! Enjoy your Spring! xo
I am LOVING getting asked to share on guest blogs. My latest contribution was about the choice we have in each moment to love and simple things we can do to get ourselves in “loving energy.”
It’s simple, it works and of course, it feels good! Love just feels good.
Try choosing love, really choosing love today. Even if it’s just keeping that thought in your head and sending out loving energy to the world. Watch it change your vibe immediately!
Click here for the link and enjoy!
In the quest to manifest things—to get what we want in life by learning to use our energy to attract things to us—we often hear that we need to just feel good.
Ok, so that can be a bit confusing, because the fact is—there will be times when it doesn’t feel good.
There will be times when it is confusing, sad, scary, uncomfortable and challenging.
In the quest to go for your dreams, live true to yourself and manifest your desires, the soul will experience some growing pains.
You may not want to write that blog post, change your eating habits, react differently to people who trigger you or have that difficult talk with your spouse. But in the end, by doing these things and moving through the intital discomfort, you may get closer to a deeper sense of feeling good.
Does it feel good to get on stage and overcome your fear of public speaking? No! But in order to achieve that next level you may want to go to in your life—it may be necessary to go through that fear and come out the other end with an increased confidence.
You willingly go through the discomfort to reap the reward on the other side.
Having the healthy body you really want may require that you give up some bad habits to get the result you want. It may require you change your diet, exercise more and change your beliefs about health. You may have to sweat a bit (literally) to get to that better feeling place in your life.
Would it be easier to sit on the coach and eat potato-chips? Mmmm….maybe in that instant. But on another more conscious level, you know that what would be better for you would be to get your butt off the coach, go for a walk, choose something healthy to eat and ditch the junk food.
Where many people get off track with this idea (to just feel good no matter what) is that they confuse feeling good from a short-term, instant gratification viewpoint, with a long-term, more conscious, deep level of feeling good. Or they believe that they have to fake how they feel and force being happy. This isn’t about faking it.
Be real about how you feel, then move towards raising your vibration by feeling better.
The point it—it’s not always easy, and it doesn’t always feel good.
We resist change. We fight it. We tend to want to do what is easier. Do we want easy, or do we want lasting joy? Do we want easy or meaningful?
Struggle is not a requirement, but it may be a part of it when you are pushing up against some big goals, changes or intentions.
Keep the focus on feeling real and feeling better. Just keep reaching for ways to feel better that will serve you long-term and support your goals and intentions.
Choosing our thoughts, feelings and actions is what it’s all about. Having choice is what gives us creative freedom in our lives. If you want something that isn’t coming to you—choose differently. That is all it takes.