Sometimes getting clear about where we are in life can be a bit like ripping a band off super fast. It may hurt a little, you may make a funny face and afterwords—you’ll realize it wasn’t such a big hairy deal after all.
THE TRUH IS—happiness, health and wealth are choices.
You may think that statement is unrealistic, call me a dreamer, or my favorite—an idealist.
And let’s be clear before you virtually throw a book at me—I am not discounting that people have real problems.
People don’t have money—they grow up poor.
People are born with health issues that were clearly NOT their choice.
And there are people who, no matter how hard they try—can’t find happiness.
I agree—people have problems. I agree—life can be hard.
I agree—we don’t always get to choose what happens to us, the family we are born into, or our genetics.
I get that life can deal us a bad hand.
And what I also know—is that no matter what sort of shit storm life throws your way—you can still choose to be happy.
You can still choose to create wealth.
You can still choose to work towards being healthier, no matter what your genetics.
The point is—you can mold, shape and manifest (if you wanna get all spiritual) a life that feels better to you (or that is closer to your dream life) by simply learning to be way, way, way more choosy about your choices.
Here are some examples (and they work if you actually do them…so do them gosh darnit!)
Instead of feeling_____________ when I am driving and that person doesn’t use their turn signal, I choose to feel___________ (you are working towards putting something a bit more positive and good feeling in the second space)
Rather than thinking______________when my checking account balance is under $50, I will instead choose to think______________(you are aiming to come up with a feeling that is a slight improvement from the first feeling. If you truly feel panicked about not having enough money, you probably won’t force a feeling of total confidence about it. But you can find a thought/feeling that is a bit better than panic)
I could really tell that person to_______________ right now, but I will choose to think, do or say ____________because that is a better energy and I know (in the long run) this will raise my vibration and deliver boatloads of life goodies my way.
My back hurts, I will never lose this weight, my parents were like this, so I am stuck with it. Basically, my health is_________. And I also know that I co-create my reality with thoughts, feelings and actions, so if I truly want to be a health machine, I better change my thoughts, feelings and actions. I will work on feeling more___________about my health and come up with ways to support a healthy lifestyle rather than adding to the negative energy that perpetuates it.
*** so the idea here is to fill in the first blank with the actual thing you may feel in that instance. And the second or third blanks, you are reaching for a better thought or feeling. It does NOT have to be fake or forced, just a slight energetic improvement. And in the end, even if all this hocus-pocus manifesting stuff doesn’t work (I wholeheartedly DON’T believe that, because I am living, breathing proof it does) you will at least learn a method to feel a bit better when the going gets tough.
So fill in the blanks of your life with new, better feelings and thoughts. It really does work, but not if you only think about it here and there and get lazy pants about it.
If you want the change, you gotta change. You have to choose differently.
Rip that bandaid off and get it over with already!
p.s always cheering you on…..always.
Yes, that is me right there in front the Eiffel tower with my lovely daughters.
One of my bucket list items was to take them to France and Italy for a couple weeks and it was such an incredible experience.
I have a thing for France (I am there yearly) but this was my girls first time to get to experience the whole European thing.
It was truly a memory I will cherish FOREVER! (thank you God)
Some people may look at this and think “great, its easy for her . . . she has money” or “how self-serving” and even “that won’t ever happen for me.”
I so get this, because I used to think and say those things (and in fact, sometimes I slip and find myself falling back into patterns that don’t help me live to my full potential)
But the truth is—I didn’t get to the Eiffel tower, to spending weeks in Europe and having incredible relationships and experiences—by coming up with great excuses and justifications.
I worked on my shit.
I healed the places that were stuck, dark, angry and just plain icky.
We can’t get to our next “level” of growth and awareness if we are stuck in patterns that were responsible for getting us there in the first place.
Simply, we need to change if we want things to change. And it’s really not that hard.
Scary? Maybe a little.
But whats worse? Stretching to a new level and feeling some discomfort along the way—with the hope of creating new, great things in your life.
Or……playing it safe, staying where you are because it’s “a sure thing, ” safe or comfortable.
What feels better? What feels worse?
All it takes to live a life you really want—is to consciously know what it is you desire, write it down, nurture is like a tiny baby kitten and then get (and STAY) excited about that tiny baby kitten (which is the love, the travel, the experiences, the new home, the healed relationship with your mom)
You can’t expect to get to Paris, when your stuck in Wal-mart (no disrespect if you’re a Wal-Mart lover—it just creates a feeling of “lack of” whenever I have ventured in there)
You can’t expect to feel high energy and on top of the world, when your feelings and beliefs have you feeling buried.
You cant have a ton of $$ in your bank account when you FEEL broke.
You start the process of living an exquisite life by actually starting to live like you have one.
But how? How do you get from feeling mostly burnout to feeling beautiful?
You take baby steps and you are relentless about doing nothing other than working on feeling good, feeling better and being clear about your desires. You gotta know what it is you want first, then you gotta learn to be a vibrational match to that thing.
Then you sit back, chill-ax and know it’s coming (but you cant get irritated + annoyed if you think you’re not getting it when you want it…you can’t fall into that trap)
Most people won’t be able to jump from broke to billion, so you start one day at a time, choose your thoughts, feelings and actions to line up with your Eiffel tower—that thing that truly lights you up and that makes you feel all warm and fuzzy.
p.s. what’s your Eiffel tower? What’s that thing you want to conquest next? Let’s get on it! Share with me—I wanna know!
Excellence is a habit, just as much as a lack of excellence is a habit.
But what is excellence?
In my world, which is a world based on a strong connection to the divine (God, Source, Spirit, whatever word you choose)—excellence isn’t so much about the stuff you have, the letters after your name, or the tax bracket you are in.
And it is for sure not about being perfect.
It’s about the quality of life you have.
Excellence (in The 2 Choices world)—is about how you feel and how connected and in love with life that you are. It’s also about feeling a sense of inner success—that you’re on track, pointed in the right direction and feeling generally super ON FIRE about your life.
It’s about your evolution, and your overall energetic offering to the world.
Yep–it’s about energy.
And yep—it’s about the CHOICE to do things in a way that get your energy up**, so you can attract more divine gifts (quality food, nice things, luxury, travel, love, health, joy, harmony).
Excellence is a habit. Happiness is a habit. Success and living lives that really feel good—are all habits.
And habits are a choice. And if you’ve been following me for anytime at all—you know I am all about the power of choice.
If we truly desire to change any little or big thing in our life—and create a sense of excellence—we need to choose it.
And then choose it over and over and over again (create a habit out of it).
Yes, Aristotle is spot on—excellence is a habit. And I may add to that—
Excellence is a choice.
The following list is what I personally follow on a day to day basis that has turned my life around—180 degrees.
And I say this with a sense of humility, grace and gratitude.
There is no chest pounding here.
It’s an honest soul share—from me to you.
I was broke and broken. I was confused, sad and angry. I felt lost and bored with my life.
And then I found a way out. That way out (and through) has gifted me with—world travel, incredible personal and professional relationships, peak health, financial abundance, real joy, and a deep sense of gratitude. .
I want everyone to feel this way.
The list . . . 11 Daily Habits to Create Excellence
Creating your own unique personal excellence routine is one of the most amazing forms of self love and self care that you can gift to yourself. I fully encourage you to use the one I created, or come up with your own!
Just as we get into habits that don’t support our dreams and desires and life—we can create new habits that do support what we want. And in the end—it is a choice.
If anything, remember that each day, how you live your life—is a gift and a choice.
I sincerely hope you choose to love the heck out of each day.
p.s. I will be in Paris, Provence and Rome this May-June, scouting for retreat locations, book business + to follow through with a spiritual calling that has been growing stronger and stronger (it has to do with Mary Magdalene). Excited to share this next evolution with you all.
**up also meaning aligned, pure and free of mixed vibrations or energy frequencies.
Brevity . . . my FAVORITE.
If you’re reading “me” for the first time, I write about spiritual stuff, the power of choice + living lives that seriously curl your toes, put a zip in your step and make you tingle all over.
Great, big, tingles.
But what about when shit goes down that doesn’t feel so tingly? When things aren’t lining up for you? When the sparkle has left the romance, the deals aren’t going through, the happiness isn’t happening and those pounds aren’t staying off?
What about when you feel let down as **** and you cant seem to dig your way out of that hole?
Try these 6 things (but actually DO THEM, don’t just read them) Action Jackson.
- Get a pen or pencil. Get some paper. YELL AND SCREAM on paper (if this feels cathartic, of course). Write down what’s got your panties in a bunch. Write it down. Scribble it if need be. Just get it out, down on paper. Say whatever you want. Anything goes here.
- Discard it. Find a way to safely purge what you just wrote down. Burn it (only if you can do it safely) shred it, dispose of it safely. And if there is no way to safely dispose of it and you don’t feel comfortable writing these things down, at least find a way to release those feelings in a safe way. Maybe go out in nature, where you can be alone and just say it to the universe. Get it out. Purge it, then discard it.
- Get grounded. Epsom salt baths, nature walks, funny movies, comfort food (unless this triggers body issues) hugs, snuggles, hanging with people/pets you love.
- Smile. Force it a bit. I know, I know, who likes to force things? No one. But in this case, when you are feeling let down as all **** you gotta just practice smiling more It’s amazing what happens energetically when you just make an effort to smile more. People smile back and the world just becomes brighter.
- Remember happy. Take a few minutes every hour on the hour (or just as much as you can) to remember a time when you felt happy, or at least pretty gosh darn good. Sink into those memories as if they were right here, right now. Access those happy feelings. Access + feel them.
- Choose happy. Choose love. Choose healthy. Choose abundant. Even though life can throw some humdingers our way—it doesn’t mean we don’t get to choose what it looks like. You may have horrible days, weeks, months and years, but what you do have, that is the most massive gift + power—is the ability to CHOOOSE how you feel and what you think. When you realize and embrace this, you get to choose whatever it is you want in life. It’s one thing to remember what it feels like to be happy, but an entire new level of commitment when you DAILY choose it (or health, wealth, love, joy, spiritual connection, miracles).
The gift and power we have in what we choose to think and feel is the biggie here. It doesn’t matter what’s happened to you—what cant EVER be taken away is your choice to FEEL and THINK how and what you want to think and feel. If you can get to this point—as the saying goes—the world is your oyster.
How you feel is an energy. What you think is an energy. When you learn to use this in a conscious, constructive way—you also learn how to be a co-creator in your life. Instead of feeling like its all happening TO you, it switches on a dime to a real sense of being able to create and manifest what you desire in your life.
And that, my most beautiful and dear soul-sister + brother is worthy of full body tingles.
It’s the super feel good stuff, when you start playing life on this level. It’s fun. It’s connecting. It’s pure light and love.
p.s. And buy my book if you’d like! It’s a glimpse about how to turn any mess into a miracle—just like I did. Get it here.
This one is gonna be good!
It’s about re-invention.
I LOVE RE-ANYTHING! IT SIGNIFIES A FRESH START. It means we get to re-do, re-claim, re-focus, re-learn, re-love, re-choose + re-member.
Want better health, more wealth, that hunky love partner, or world peace? You get to reinvent what that means for you now.
Dear Souls . . . there is truly no need to EVER freak out or be worried about things. Worry is not a vibration that attracts what you want.
Worrying isn’t high vibration (and plus it feels horrible)
In fact, worry just generally keeps us stuck in cycles that give us more shit to worry about.
So, put on your positivity pants and gear up for another powerful, transformational Mercury Retrograde.
If you don’t know what mercury retrograde—I would love to fill you in.
Mercury Retrograde happens about 3-4 times a year and—in a nutshell—the planet Mercury slows down in its orbit and appears to move backwards.
However, this is an optical illusion (no planets move backwards). According to the smarty pants as NASA (it’s not just us woo-woo types that talk about Mercury Retrogrades) the normal motion of stars and planets in our nights sky—goes from west to east direction. This is called prograde motion.
A retrograde of any planet occurs when it shifts from an east to west direction before turning back to prograde motion.
The planetary dance that happens in this process, is our beloved Mercury Retrograde period.
Mercury Retrograde has become quite the buzzwords and people get all freaked out about their computers breaking down, cars not working, flights being cancelled and basically, all hell breaking loose on earth.
And why do people think this?
From an astrological perspective, Mercury is the planet that rules all forms of communication, travel, clarity and honesty.
So when planet Mercury starts shaking things up out there in the universe (by going into a retrograde), the school of thought is that our earthly matters that are connected to travel, communication and these sorts of things—go a bit helter-skelter.
Whether you believe this to be true, or not—as with anything in life—just being aware and conscious is a good choice.
If it does exist and does genuinely impact things in your life—then approaching these times thoughtfully and with awareness—is a perfect way to flow with it.
Personally, I do notice a big shift in energy during retrogrades and I have used these times for great, positive transformations in my own life.
I get all geeked out about retrogrades because for me, they symbolize a time to go inward, reflect and reinvigorate.
To reiterate . . . there is no need to worry during a retrograde.
Thoughts are things dears. And we choose our thoughts (this is powerful)
Can we prove beyond a shadow of a doubt that Mercury Retrograde does what people says it does? Nope!
But we can be aware. And we can use every moment—whether its a retrograde, or not—to choose to be aware, conscious and in alignment with what we want to do in life and who we want to be.
The most current retrograde happens next week—January 21st through February 11th, 2015. The other two this year are on May 18th—June 11th and September 17th—October 9th.
Mark it on your calendars (or not). And maybe make a note to keep a journal during retrogrades to see what you observe in your own life.
I happen to have 2 trips planned during this retrograde and I am feeling quite jazzed about both of them.
As with anything—it comes down to a choice.
A choice to think a certain way, feel a certain way and act in a certain way—that lines up with what you want in life. Whatever it may be— a reinvention during a powerful retrograde, or better health, more passion and love in your life, or simply more happiness—it’s all about choosing thoughts and feelings that get you closer to those things.
Welcome the retrograde, or ignore it altogether—it’s your choice.
Much love to you this day and every day!
p.s. Try to NOT get caught in the trap of blaming unwanted things on the planets (lovingly). Rather, embrace these times and access your true and birth given power. Use these times for re-inventing what it means to be the you that you want to be.
Carrie’s Top 10 List—The Big Kahunas (the things that have impacted my life on a grand + spectacular scale)
Commitment to awareness. This has to top my list, because without this in the lead—there wouldn’t be a list. I wouldn’t really think about it. I would be largely unaware of my life. In the past, I “lived” life asleep on so many levels. Asleep and numb to how I really felt, what I really wanted and what was truly possible. And when I made the choice to step into being committed to being aware (of my feelings, my thoughts, my reactions and the overall vibe of my life)—I began to get way more tuned into what truly mattered to me. Once you know what you truly desire—you are one step closer to receiving it.
Journaling. This should come as no surprise, being a writer and all. But I actually never really enjoyed journaling. For me, I preferred typing on a keyboard, which is such a familiar thing for me, given my background as a pianist. But a dear friend/mentor of mine, showed me just how beneficial journaling can be. There is a different mechanism that happens when we actually physically write over typing on a keyboard. It’s super satisfying and helps me wind down after a long day at the computer.
Books (shocker!). Aside from being a voracious writer, I am a voracious reader. I LOVE to read and at most times, have about 3 books going at the same time. The books that have had the biggest impact on me (of late)have been: A Course in Miracles (I struggled with this book in the past, because it read a bit like the bible, but if you stick with the workbook section and are ready for this sort of thing—I have found it miraculous) Abraham-Hicks books (any of them are good, or even just their daily quotes—they are the masters on the topic of energy and vibration)
Relationships. This last year, one of my biggest “A-HA’s” was just how critical it is for me to have healthy relationships. If there is something a bit off or unresolved in one of my primary relationships—it throws everything off its axis. And maybe this goes hand in hand with #1 on the list—that when you commit to awareness in your life—you can’t pretend or ignore when something is off and when the energy around it isn’t in alignment with what you want. If you work on healing and making peace with strained relationships—it spills into all the other areas of your life.
Nature. I need nature to feel grounded. It’s that simple. When I feel scattered, I simply go outside and sink my feet in the earth, or walk in the woods and it’s an instant game changer. Find that thing that can instantly change your mood from heavy to light.
Exercise/Health. This is another critical one for me and will most likely always have a place on my top 10 list. I have to exercise or I CLIMB WALLS. I also am a fan of supplements and eating in a way that honors what my body wants. I don’t follow any diets, or mainstream advice on what is healthy/not healthy. You can find just as many studies that prove one approach to health and diet is good—as you can find studies to show that it’s not. Bottom line—find out what feels in alignment with you. Always.
Creative outlet. For me, bringing things back into my life—like the piano and cooking— has been a great creative outlet. After a long day of writing—to create an amazing French meal is super relaxing.
Travel. I must have been a gypsy in a past life, because I MUST have a change of scenery periodically or I go bonkers. I love going to new place, discovering new foods, people, etc. It makes me feel alive.
Honoring what I love. This is what happens when you become committed to awareness. You discover more of what you really love and don’t love. Once you get to that point, the going backwards thing feels horrible. I love—candles, baths, good food, happy (but not fake happy) people, my kids, my dogs, my man, nature, nice clothes, travel, health, exercise, play, talking with God, creating, enjoying, luxury, flying first class, FRANCE and of course, everything on this list!
Solitude. This is a must have and a major epiphany for me this last year. I fought it because I associated wanting and needing good chunks of solitude as being—antisocial, introverted or like I was resisting something. That I needed to push through this and want to enjoy being in the company of others more often. Nope! My truth is that I require a certain amount of solitude to feel grounded and at my best, peak operating level.
So there you have it! I would encourage you, if you haven’t already to think over what your personal list may look like.
Because taking the time to do this (and writing it down) is a critical step in being aligned with what you want in life. You can go through life on autopilot (and if it works, then great!) or you can become very tuned into what it is you want, what you like and what makes you feel your best.
And when we feel our best—we are magnets attracting more of that goodness our way.