—Neale Donald Walsch
Just because we “get” something intellectually doesn’t mean we truly believe it or think it’s possible for us.
And even if we get it intellectually, AND believe it—sometimes we forget to practice it or implement into our lives.
Can you relate?
I was reminded of this very glaringly this weekend when I returned from a life changing trip to San Diego.
This trip was a reunion with some very powerful women. Women who are movers and shakers in their careers, families, communities and spiritual lives.
We laughed, cried, journaled, set powerful intentions and generally fit about 2 years of deep personal work in 4 days.
In a nutshell—we moved some mountains.
But I didn’t realize how truly transformational it was until I got home and started seeing the power of intention already working miracles in my life.
And not just my life—but those closest to me as well.
I won’t get into the nitty- gritty of the miracles that unfolded, but suffice to say that it was a massive, miraculous shift : )
The powerful intentions I set while in San Diego had already begun shifting things in a matter of days.
So what the heck is an intention and how can you get moving on it so YOU can move a few mountains yourself (or at the very least create change)?
A standard, text book definition of an intention is this—
- A thing intended; an aim or plan.
But a more fitting definition from a manifesting perspective would be—
- An intention is a desire, dream or goal that you passionately envision creating in your life. It’s something that you may not physically see evidence of right now, but through creating a detailed vision about what you want—you create an energy which open doors to making it real. It’s the process of turning a dream into reality.
For example—it’s creating a “day-dream” or written statment about what your soul mate is like—right down to every last detail. What color is his hair? What clothes is he wearing when you first meet him? Color of his eyes? The tone of his voice. The way you feel when he looks at you.
It can be a written story or internal vision you create about all the wealth you have—even though your checking account says otherwise.
It’s confidence in knowing what you want is on it’s way—even though you may not see evidence of it.
But how do you get yourself to feel something or envision something so clearly when it feels forced, faked or fabricated?
Here are a few things that you can implement right away that can help you with this—
- First off—change the perspective on it being fake, forced or fabricated. Have fun with it and approach it with a youthful, curious mindset. Do young kids feel bad about daydreaming? Be a kid about it. Dream away.
- See it as a gift—you have creative control in your life and can have a HUGE impact on what happens by choosing to focus on what you want, rather than seeing what you don’t want (advanced manifesting topic which I will cover in an upcoming mini course)
- Place the focus on what it feels like to ALREADY HAVE that thing in your life. Stay with that feeling.
Intentionsetting also has an element of letting go which is critical to getting the results you want.
Many people are actually better at this than they think, but they have unconscious, self sabotaging energy and beliefs that chase away the dream that showed up for them (more on this in the next broadcast : )
Intention setting—when done right—is another powerful tool in your arsenal for living a good life.
And who doesn’t want to have a life where you actually get to live your dreams, rather than just dreaming them?
It’s even better than moving mountains.
Your turn now. What’s your relationship with intention setting? Is it something you’re doing? A little, a lot, not at all? I’d love to know.
The idea is—that when you line up you energy with what you desire in life and make a conscious effort to consistently keep your energy aligned with those things—they will appear in your life (manifest).
- You punch back(not literally of course!)—you react off the cuff and say something that may, momentarily give you a sense of relief (p.s. this never works)
- You pretend it didn’t hurt and self medicate with alcohol, food, shopping or other such feeling stuffing activities. Or my favorite . . . . saying “I’m fine” (when you really feel like crying, screaming or curling up in a corner)
- You allow the feelings. You sit with it and accept it. Then you kindly ask that voice what it wants. You hear it out. And then you let it know it isn’t running the show. Then—you tell the truth about it all—that you are loved and the universe always has your back.
And whether you’re highly sensitive or not—it takes patience, understanding and personal strength to stay present in the moment when someone is saying something that feels hurtful or unconscious to you and listen in a non defensive way.
The truth of who we are is light, love and brilliance. And no matter how many layers of wounds and misdirected inner voices we have to REDIRECT—we can always find our way back to what’s true. Always.
I have gone back and forth about a gazillion times trying to choose what topic to write about today.
And I know it’s not a bad case of “the Fridays.” (on a Tuesday)
It has nothing to do with being distracted. It’s gotta do with a minor “growth bump.” (the spiritual version of a speed bump : )
There’s a feeling of vulnerability in my life right now—that’s new to me. Not that I haven’t felt vulnerable before, but this one is a bit different.
So I started thinking about what has changed. Things are better actually. Things are percolating. Those things I asked to manifest—are manifesting.
So why the twinge of vulnerability + uncomfortableness?
I am feeling at bit of pressure. Pressure to provide content that is life changing, world rocking and DEEP. And pressure to keep up, to do it all, be it all and have it all.
And then I said to myself . . . . . “Oh stop it Carrie!”
Stop with that unnecessary self indulgent pressure.
Stop with thinking that it’s even about me!
Stop worrying about getting it right, getting it done and especially, about changing the world.
Just relax and enjoy it.
Do we really need to have it all, be it all and do it all? I think not. I think the day to day journey and the experiences we create—are the true gifts.
Those life experiences that fill us up, enrich us and make us feel alive from head to toe—that’s what it’s all about.
And in all honesty, does the world even need changing? I don’t think so. I think our view towards the world could use a bit of care and consideration though.
It doesn’t benefit any of us to see the world (or our lives) as broken, needing to be fixed or not enough.
It matters that we focus on what’s good and nurture the vibration of “what’s right and good” and not “what’s wrong and horrible.” (our culture loves to focus on what’s wrong…and hows’ that working out?)
We need to get back to feeling good and focusing on the fact that we are vibrational beings, living in a vibrational world.
Your vibe = Your life. And your vibe = your choice.
Therefore, your life = your choices ( it’s like an algebra problem, but without numbers! )
I’ll keep saying it over and over again. You may not have a choice with every little thing that happens in life—but you always have a choice in how you feel, what you think and how you react to things.
That’s where the magic happens. It’s where you can start creating miracles out of thin air.
Possible? Absolutely (But only if you think it is. You’ve got to at least have a tiny glimmer of hope that it’s possible for you.)
And the spiritual growth bump I mentioned earlier—it’s simply a beautiful reminder of being on track.
When we desire changes in our lives—improved relationships, a new career, more happiness, better health—we will almost always go through bit of discomfort when going through those changes. These spiritual growth bumps (or hurdles, changes, roadblocks) are simply loving reminders from the universe that we are on track, growing and getting closer to our dreams and desires.
Because we aren’t here to be bored, to feel stuck or miserable. We aren’t here to be unhappy.
We are meant to enjoy life. We are meant to grow, to seek and to feel FRISKY AND ALIVE!
Happy, happy holidays!
Ever want something that ended up being a VERY bad idea in the long run?
I have. Juuuuust a couple of times (wink, wink).
There was a time when I thought lots of vodka was a good idea. Dancing for dollars seemed perfectly fine at one point in my life (why not? I mean at age 22 that meant—$$$$, minimal clothing + vodka). Driving fast was a passion of mine. Then of course, there were those relationships that were destined to fail from the get-go.
And in hindsight—not such wildly great ideas.
Yes, yes, yes—I get that our mistakes can be great teachers. And that sometimes our greatest life lessons come out of our struggles. But can you relate to wanting less struggles and more victories?
No one needs more struggles. Not-a-one-of-us.
The art of knowing what you want and desire is a critical piece of the happiness puzzle (and success, health, wealth puzzle as well).
And sadly—many of us may think we know what we want, when we really aren’t clear (or are hugely misguided about wanting things that are NOT GOOD for us). In addition, most of us simply aren’t taught how to find out what truly lights us up and makes us happy to jump out of bed in the morning.
So how do we get there? How the heck do we really know what we want and if it’s good for us?
Knowing what you want requires awareness, commitment and self-exploration (brace yourself . . . . here comes the self-helpy part!)
It requires you ask a few critical questions—
- Do you currently feel happy with your life? And not just a superficial happiness, but a real, true inner happiness. It’s a feeling and sense of being connected to something that really lights you up and makes you feel alive.
- If you were on your death bed would you have regrets?(I know, it’s a bit dreary, but it is also one of the most efficient ways to get an honest answer.) Things you wished you would have done more of? Less of? The best way to discover if you are living a life in alignment with what you want—is to think of how you might feel if you knew your days were numbered.
- What are you tolerating in your life? In other words, what things are you doing that you really don’t want to do. What feels more like a “have to” rather than a want to? Sure someone has to scrub the toilet and take out the trash, but I am talking about bigger life things—our careers, our relationships, the overall state of our well-being. What are you tolerating that really is energetically holding you back from being an energetic match to what you want? If you are tolerating many things, you are NOT in an energy of allowing.
Asking these few questions, can get you a bit more on track to really knowing what you want in your life. These are the first steps.
And to stay true to you desires, you must stay accountable to them.
Try the following to stay dialed into your desires and to stay true to them.
- Create a yearly, month and weekly calendar which addressees your desires. What do you want to accomplish, what do you want to acquire, how do you want to feel? Be specific, or just have a general them for the month or year. Create something that works for you! For example, I have a theme for the year and I create a theme for each month. I also start each day with a ” today I choose________” statement. That way I am setting the tone for the day. I am making a choice to feel, happy, content, joyful, content, etc….
- Aside from the practical “to-do” items, a critical piece to getting clear about your desires is quiet time to reflect. You can get a crystal clear vision of your desires when your life feels frantic, chaotic, loud and busy. Take time to walk, quiet the mind, mediate for 10 minutes a day and get out in nature. Do those things that help you slow down, get clear and centered. From this grounded place, your true, healthy desires will shine through.
- Stay accountable. No one is going to do this for you. Your choices= your life. Choose to do the same things you have always done and nothing will change. Choose to step out of your comfy zone, make minor changes and reap huge rewards in the long run.
The art of knowing what you want is another layer of awareness. It’s a practice in slowing down, getting quiet and really listening to what your soul wants.
Knowing what you want is power. It’s the launching pad to increased intuition, a miracle mindset and elevated manifesting abilities (and this is when it gets super fun!)
And trust, me—it’s just way better than a life of chaos + bad choices.