Yes, that is me right there in front the Eiffel tower with my lovely daughters.
One of my bucket list items was to take them to France and Italy for a couple weeks and it was such an incredible experience.
I have a thing for France (I am there yearly) but this was my girls first time to get to experience the whole European thing.
It was truly a memory I will cherish FOREVER! (thank you God)
Some people may look at this and think “great, its easy for her . . . she has money” or “how self-serving” and even “that won’t ever happen for me.”
I so get this, because I used to think and say those things (and in fact, sometimes I slip and find myself falling back into patterns that don’t help me live to my full potential)
But the truth is—I didn’t get to the Eiffel tower, to spending weeks in Europe and having incredible relationships and experiences—by coming up with great excuses and justifications.
I worked on my shit.
I healed the places that were stuck, dark, angry and just plain icky.
We can’t get to our next “level” of growth and awareness if we are stuck in patterns that were responsible for getting us there in the first place.
Simply, we need to change if we want things to change. And it’s really not that hard.
Scary? Maybe a little.
But whats worse? Stretching to a new level and feeling some discomfort along the way—with the hope of creating new, great things in your life.
Or……playing it safe, staying where you are because it’s “a sure thing, ” safe or comfortable.
What feels better? What feels worse?
All it takes to live a life you really want—is to consciously know what it is you desire, write it down, nurture is like a tiny baby kitten and then get (and STAY) excited about that tiny baby kitten (which is the love, the travel, the experiences, the new home, the healed relationship with your mom)
You can’t expect to get to Paris, when your stuck in Wal-mart (no disrespect if you’re a Wal-Mart lover—it just creates a feeling of “lack of” whenever I have ventured in there)
You can’t expect to feel high energy and on top of the world, when your feelings and beliefs have you feeling buried.
You cant have a ton of $$ in your bank account when you FEEL broke.
You start the process of living an exquisite life by actually starting to live like you have one.
But how? How do you get from feeling mostly burnout to feeling beautiful?
You take baby steps and you are relentless about doing nothing other than working on feeling good, feeling better and being clear about your desires. You gotta know what it is you want first, then you gotta learn to be a vibrational match to that thing.
Then you sit back, chill-ax and know it’s coming (but you cant get irritated + annoyed if you think you’re not getting it when you want it…you can’t fall into that trap)
Most people won’t be able to jump from broke to billion, so you start one day at a time, choose your thoughts, feelings and actions to line up with your Eiffel tower—that thing that truly lights you up and that makes you feel all warm and fuzzy.
p.s. what’s your Eiffel tower? What’s that thing you want to conquest next? Let’s get on it! Share with me—I wanna know!
Carrie’s Top 10 List—The Big Kahunas (the things that have impacted my life on a grand + spectacular scale)
Commitment to awareness. This has to top my list, because without this in the lead—there wouldn’t be a list. I wouldn’t really think about it. I would be largely unaware of my life. In the past, I “lived” life asleep on so many levels. Asleep and numb to how I really felt, what I really wanted and what was truly possible. And when I made the choice to step into being committed to being aware (of my feelings, my thoughts, my reactions and the overall vibe of my life)—I began to get way more tuned into what truly mattered to me. Once you know what you truly desire—you are one step closer to receiving it.
Journaling. This should come as no surprise, being a writer and all. But I actually never really enjoyed journaling. For me, I preferred typing on a keyboard, which is such a familiar thing for me, given my background as a pianist. But a dear friend/mentor of mine, showed me just how beneficial journaling can be. There is a different mechanism that happens when we actually physically write over typing on a keyboard. It’s super satisfying and helps me wind down after a long day at the computer.
Books (shocker!). Aside from being a voracious writer, I am a voracious reader. I LOVE to read and at most times, have about 3 books going at the same time. The books that have had the biggest impact on me (of late)have been: A Course in Miracles (I struggled with this book in the past, because it read a bit like the bible, but if you stick with the workbook section and are ready for this sort of thing—I have found it miraculous) Abraham-Hicks books (any of them are good, or even just their daily quotes—they are the masters on the topic of energy and vibration)
Relationships. This last year, one of my biggest “A-HA’s” was just how critical it is for me to have healthy relationships. If there is something a bit off or unresolved in one of my primary relationships—it throws everything off its axis. And maybe this goes hand in hand with #1 on the list—that when you commit to awareness in your life—you can’t pretend or ignore when something is off and when the energy around it isn’t in alignment with what you want. If you work on healing and making peace with strained relationships—it spills into all the other areas of your life.
Nature. I need nature to feel grounded. It’s that simple. When I feel scattered, I simply go outside and sink my feet in the earth, or walk in the woods and it’s an instant game changer. Find that thing that can instantly change your mood from heavy to light.
Exercise/Health. This is another critical one for me and will most likely always have a place on my top 10 list. I have to exercise or I CLIMB WALLS. I also am a fan of supplements and eating in a way that honors what my body wants. I don’t follow any diets, or mainstream advice on what is healthy/not healthy. You can find just as many studies that prove one approach to health and diet is good—as you can find studies to show that it’s not. Bottom line—find out what feels in alignment with you. Always.
Creative outlet. For me, bringing things back into my life—like the piano and cooking— has been a great creative outlet. After a long day of writing—to create an amazing French meal is super relaxing.
Travel. I must have been a gypsy in a past life, because I MUST have a change of scenery periodically or I go bonkers. I love going to new place, discovering new foods, people, etc. It makes me feel alive.
Honoring what I love. This is what happens when you become committed to awareness. You discover more of what you really love and don’t love. Once you get to that point, the going backwards thing feels horrible. I love—candles, baths, good food, happy (but not fake happy) people, my kids, my dogs, my man, nature, nice clothes, travel, health, exercise, play, talking with God, creating, enjoying, luxury, flying first class, FRANCE and of course, everything on this list!
Solitude. This is a must have and a major epiphany for me this last year. I fought it because I associated wanting and needing good chunks of solitude as being—antisocial, introverted or like I was resisting something. That I needed to push through this and want to enjoy being in the company of others more often. Nope! My truth is that I require a certain amount of solitude to feel grounded and at my best, peak operating level.
So there you have it! I would encourage you, if you haven’t already to think over what your personal list may look like.
Because taking the time to do this (and writing it down) is a critical step in being aligned with what you want in life. You can go through life on autopilot (and if it works, then great!) or you can become very tuned into what it is you want, what you like and what makes you feel your best.
And when we feel our best—we are magnets attracting more of that goodness our way.