—Neale Donald Walsch
Just because we “get” something intellectually doesn’t mean we truly believe it or think it’s possible for us.
And even if we get it intellectually, AND believe it—sometimes we forget to practice it or implement into our lives.
Can you relate?
I was reminded of this very glaringly this weekend when I returned from a life changing trip to San Diego.
This trip was a reunion with some very powerful women. Women who are movers and shakers in their careers, families, communities and spiritual lives.
We laughed, cried, journaled, set powerful intentions and generally fit about 2 years of deep personal work in 4 days.
In a nutshell—we moved some mountains.
But I didn’t realize how truly transformational it was until I got home and started seeing the power of intention already working miracles in my life.
And not just my life—but those closest to me as well.
I won’t get into the nitty- gritty of the miracles that unfolded, but suffice to say that it was a massive, miraculous shift : )
The powerful intentions I set while in San Diego had already begun shifting things in a matter of days.
So what the heck is an intention and how can you get moving on it so YOU can move a few mountains yourself (or at the very least create change)?
A standard, text book definition of an intention is this—
- A thing intended; an aim or plan.
But a more fitting definition from a manifesting perspective would be—
- An intention is a desire, dream or goal that you passionately envision creating in your life. It’s something that you may not physically see evidence of right now, but through creating a detailed vision about what you want—you create an energy which open doors to making it real. It’s the process of turning a dream into reality.
For example—it’s creating a “day-dream” or written statment about what your soul mate is like—right down to every last detail. What color is his hair? What clothes is he wearing when you first meet him? Color of his eyes? The tone of his voice. The way you feel when he looks at you.
It can be a written story or internal vision you create about all the wealth you have—even though your checking account says otherwise.
It’s confidence in knowing what you want is on it’s way—even though you may not see evidence of it.
But how do you get yourself to feel something or envision something so clearly when it feels forced, faked or fabricated?
Here are a few things that you can implement right away that can help you with this—
- First off—change the perspective on it being fake, forced or fabricated. Have fun with it and approach it with a youthful, curious mindset. Do young kids feel bad about daydreaming? Be a kid about it. Dream away.
- See it as a gift—you have creative control in your life and can have a HUGE impact on what happens by choosing to focus on what you want, rather than seeing what you don’t want (advanced manifesting topic which I will cover in an upcoming mini course)
- Place the focus on what it feels like to ALREADY HAVE that thing in your life. Stay with that feeling.
Intentionsetting also has an element of letting go which is critical to getting the results you want.
Many people are actually better at this than they think, but they have unconscious, self sabotaging energy and beliefs that chase away the dream that showed up for them (more on this in the next broadcast : )
Intention setting—when done right—is another powerful tool in your arsenal for living a good life.
And who doesn’t want to have a life where you actually get to live your dreams, rather than just dreaming them?
It’s even better than moving mountains.
Your turn now. What’s your relationship with intention setting? Is it something you’re doing? A little, a lot, not at all? I’d love to know.
The idea is—that when you line up you energy with what you desire in life and make a conscious effort to consistently keep your energy aligned with those things—they will appear in your life (manifest).
I used to be a very opinionated, argumentative tree hugger type (not to stereotype or anything; )
I didn’t understand how to be passionate about something and not have a chip on my shoulder about it when others didn’t have the same viewpoint.
I couldn’t understand why people could be so ignorant and asleep, to what I then saw as the demise of our environment, the abuse of animals and the general uncaring attitude that people had towards things that seemed of the utmost importance to me.
I was reminded of this recently when my daughter came home from a 2 month long trip to Sri Lanka and Nepal.
She is worried about the planet. She doesn’t understand why we don’t all drink out of hemp bottles. She is frustrated and angered by people that just don’t seem to care. She thinks Trump is the antichrist.
I get it. I understand. I know what it feels like to be so passionate and emotionally invested in something that it drives you nuts seeing other people not care at all about it.
But here’s the deal (from an energetic, manifesting perspective)—
It doesn’t matter if it’s the Donald Trump supporters (or haters), the tree huggers or the Bernie Sanders lovers.
It doesn’t matter if it’s fear about terrorists (so we never leave our homes) or fear of the polar ice caps melting.
If you’re arguing, pushing, worrying and PRIMARILY placing your focus on the “WHAT’S WRONG” part of anything—you’re setting yourself up for more disappointment and more things to worry about.
You don’t get a clean, healthy planet by being PRIMARILY angry and pissed off by people who have 18 kids, drive SUV’s or don’t recycle.
You get a clean, vibrant planet by seeing it as a thriving, healthy thing (yep, even when all evidence points to it being otherwise).
Yes, there are times when anger and fierce passion about causes and injustices have created great changes and shifts in things—but I can guarantee, the focus didn’t stay long on the anger and disgust, but shifted quickly to a passion and drive to create a solution (and that feels better)
Whether it’s people freaking out about who our next president is going to be or worrying about the fate of our planet—we’ve got to understand how critical it is to keep the focus + energy on HOW WE WOULD LIKE IT TO BE.
Even when we see evidence of things we don’t want (litter, mean people, presidential candidates we don’t like, polar bears balancing on a tiny, thin piece of ice, etc..) the key is to keep the focus on what’s wanted, work in a positive way towards that goal and then let go a little.
Yep . . . .let go a little. Because if we hold on soooooo tightly to what we want—energetically speaking—it comes across as an energy of desperation, rather than desire. And that isn’t how we attract things we want—by being desperate or fanatical.
I know its a HUGE energetic leap of faith for most of us (to let go and keep the focus on what’s wanted rather than what’s perceived)—but it’s the most critical part of the energy/vibration/manifesting deal.
So just for today—whatever chip you may have on your shoulder about whatever topic you feel passionate about—try seeing it from another angle.
Try letting go of the darkness of it and allowing the light to be with it—transforming it into a knowing that no matter what—it’s all good.
Because whether you’re a tree hugger, or a Trump lover—you won’t get closer to what you want by being angry about it all the time, or by trying to get everyone else to think the way you do.
Do your thing. Be passionate. And of course, care what you care about.
Just don’t let the evidence of what’s wrong, what’s broken, what bugs you, what you want to change, what makes you seething mad, what makes you disappointed in humanity—throw you off course and block you from enjoying life.
Keep the focus on the desire, not the disappointment.
And do it from a place of light, of forgiveness, of hope and of positive expectancy.
p.s If you’re looking for an entry level way to work with me, learn more about your energy, how it impacts your life + how to create what you want by learning to master your choices and your energy, CLICK HERE.
Being entirely honest with oneself is a good exercise.
I bet if you’re human and breathing—you’ve run across another human that in all their authenticity—triggered you a little.
Or maybe a lot.
It’s ok. It doesn’t mean you’re horrible and lack compassion.
It also doesn’t mean that you’re wrong in feeling like that persons version of “authentic” would be better if it were, well—LESS authentic.
You hear it over and over again in the self help and personal growth world . . .
“Find your authentic self. Be your authentic self. Know your authentic self.”
But here is the issue with that—
Some people’s version of “authentic” may not seem very nice and may miss the boat when it comes to being self aware and open to change. And even if people do honestly feel they are being their 100% authentic self—you still may not line up with it.
And that’s ok too! You don’t have to agree with everyone—to be evolved or spiritual.
You don’t even have to like everyone to be evolved + spiritual (shhh . . . don’t tell the Dalai Lama)
In fact, it’s more spiritual to be honest about NOT feeling super jazzed about someone, than it is to pretend otherwise.
Because often in our acceptance of those feelings that don’t feel so evolved—is where the magic and growth take place.
On top of that—is the idea that what you resist persists. In other words, if you are truly bothered by something but pretending you aren’t bothered by it—it’s not going to go away, because you are “feeling stuffing” which is basically resistance.
And resistance, feeling stuffing and pretending you don’t feel something, that you do—is not an energy of allowing and attracting.
This matters because how we truly feel about things—is our vibration. And our vibration is what determines what flows back into our lives.
And you can’t change it, heal it or fix it if you aren’t being honest about it.
Many people think they are being authentic, when they really aren’t fully connected to how they feel about something and ultimately, to their vibration about it.
So what does it mean to be authentic in a conscious way? A way that isn’t self righteous, evasive or fake?
- owning your shit
- saying what you really mean
- standing up for what you really want
- being accountable (a nicer way of saying “owning your shit”)
- being committed to your growth
- being ok with making mistakes, but learning form them rather than repeating them for decades and then passing that energy on to your kids
- letting go of a need to be right
- being of service to brining more light and love to the world (I know, this is the super woo-woo one, but hey—I go there and that’s just me being authentically me 😉
- being conscious and self-aware
If a more “true” and less self-helpy meaning of authenticity is being an example of goodness, of light, of forgiveness and truth—then that’s a keeper.
But if it simply gets reduced to another woo-woo term that causes frustration or annoyance—then by all means—it’s time to drop it and move on.
The main point is to not let the word, teaching or concept get in the way of the main intention and goal.
And isn’t our ultimate goal simply to enjoy our lives? To laugh more, play more, travel more, love more, feel healthy, frisky and ALIVE?
Yes! Truthfully, authentically—
Self help is great in some respects and in others, it can be frustrating, confusing and jut plain wackadoodle.
It’s not that I don’t think it has merit (I am a self help author and coach after all : )
It’s that there are a few central beliefs that are thrown around in the self help world, that may trip people up.
They may actually make you wanna pull your hair out and scream profanities at the universe.
We start to hear them so much—that they are reduced to catchy new age slogans that we sort of tune out after awhile.
You learn about the “manifest your dreams” thing. You study it. You get excited about it. You read more books about it, maybe attend a workshop.
You’re hopeful. Excited even.
And then it doesn’t work.
You still don’t like your job.
You still feel disconnected.
You still don’t have six pack abs, stacks of gold or endless youth and vitality.
And you certainly don’t feel like you’re manifesting your dreams.
So you decide that—
Self help must not work. That woo-woo stuff must be a bunch of b.s.
And you scream profanities at the universe.
I get it. I’ve been there.
If you follow the self help or spiritual growth world—there’s little doubt you’ve heard the following sayings. But as with anything in life, let’s look at them with a curious, open mind and make sure they are truly of benefit to us—and not actually holding us back or a source of frustration (an energy that doesn’t help us to attract what we want)
8 self-help beliefs that may do more harm than good—
1. Everything happens for a reason—Maybe it doesn’t. Maybe some things happens, just because they do. Maybe we don’t need to try to connect ourselves to horrible things, and internalize that we deserve it, or we attracted it. Maybe some things just happen, regardless of our energy, our horoscope or how the planets are lined up. Maybe the only reason it happened is for us to learn to maintain our vibration, no matter what (very good idea indeed)
2. Ask and it is given. Maybe everything we ask for, isn’t given—in exactly the way we ask for it…. Maybe, as the Rolling Stones say—”You can’t always gets what you want, but if you try sometimes, you get what you need.”
This, I found to be spot on. While I genuinely believed that winning millions in the lottery was not only possible, but highly probable, it still didn’t happen. But what did happen, is that I won the “life lottery” in so many more meaningful ways than just a mountain of money (but yes, the prosperity showed up too : )
3. You get what you give (or you attract everything to you based on what energy you give out in the world) Mmmmmm, as much as Abraham Hicks tries to explain why young kids get horrible diseases, and why traumatic things happen to innocent souls—I don’t buy this one all the time.
And, it’s another potential black hole for guilt. If all these bad things happen to me—then I must have deserved it, right? This one, we need to take with a grain of salt and be easy on ourselves.
Yes, I do believe we are energetic magnets. I do think there is great value in learning to master how we feel and what we think. I also believe that there are certain things that fall out of our ability to explain, or make sense of. And the best thing we can do is get back to a place of feeling good, feeling better and being playful, deliberate and light about our energy, no matter what happens.
4. Don’t do it if it doesn’t feel good. I am pretty sure cleaning toilets won’t ever feel good to me. Or paying taxes. But I do them anyway. I like not being in jail and having a clean toilet! And even beyond those trivial things—there are the larger growth phases we may go through in life, that don’t feel good. But when we move beyond our comfort zone, feel a bit of the uncomfortableness—the gifts that are on the other side are worth it.
5. Live just for the moment, just for the now. As a parent of an 18 and 20 year old, to tell them to only live for the now and today—would be leaving out a big part of it. Yes, I get the idea behind this one. Be present. Enjoy the now. But I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that my “now” is pretty amazing because a few years back, I planned ahead, thought about my future and set things in motion to make sure my “now” would be what I wanted it to be.
Sometimes you gotta live for tomorrow a little bit as well. It’s not just about now. It’s about setting the intention to have a succession of successful and pleasing “nows.” That requires we think ahead, plan ahead and create a vision for what we want our tomorrow to look like.
6. Never say never. I am never going to intentionally eat insects. Never. Never going to jump out of a plane. Never. I will never again spend so much of my energy on being angry or arguing over pointless things. There are things I know I will never do again. It’s ok to say never when you’re that clear. Clarity is good.
There is good intention behind all these beliefs. And there are aspects of each, that I believe to be absolutely true.
But the main point we need to remember here is this—
Lets not be sheeple!!! (see definition)
Believe it because it feels right and adds value to your life.
We gravitate towards self help to be helped.
To feel better. To manifest our dreams. To feel loved and connected.
We reach out to self help to . . . get help!
So if it isn’t helping, then move on or take a good hard look at YOU.
Maybe it isn’t the saying that doesn’t work. Maybe it’s old beliefs, ways of thinking and feeling that are tripping you up.
Maybe you do create your reality through your energy—but simply understanding what that means, isn’t enough.
It has to be lived.
And it has to be felt, known and believed in such a way that there isn’t an OUNCE OF DOUBT.
AND THAT, my dear friend—takes patience, time and commitment.
But that’s a whole other topic (and post)
Remember—it takes us decades to learn ways of reacting, feeling and thinking in the world that maybe DON’T work in our favor.
So let’s give ourselves a little break, be patient and acknowledge that it may take a bit more that a workshop, a book or one online program—to change something in our life.
Self-help and personal growth are merely tools we can use to get closer to what we want in life.
But ultimately any of those tools, beliefs and online workshops, aren’t worth a dime if your aren’t going to make a conscious choice to change the thing you want to change.
SO IT COMES DOWN TO A CHOICE.
You have to consciously CHOOSE to change.
But how cool is that?
It’s ultimately, your choice.
Your choice how your life looks + feels.