Sometimes getting clear about where we are in life can be a bit like ripping a band off super fast. It may hurt a little, you may make a funny face and afterwords—you’ll realize it wasn’t such a big hairy deal after all.
THE TRUH IS—happiness, health and wealth are choices.
You may think that statement is unrealistic, call me a dreamer, or my favorite—an idealist.
And let’s be clear before you virtually throw a book at me—I am not discounting that people have real problems.
People don’t have money—they grow up poor.
People are born with health issues that were clearly NOT their choice.
And there are people who, no matter how hard they try—can’t find happiness.
I agree—people have problems. I agree—life can be hard.
I agree—we don’t always get to choose what happens to us, the family we are born into, or our genetics.
I get that life can deal us a bad hand.
And what I also know—is that no matter what sort of shit storm life throws your way—you can still choose to be happy.
You can still choose to create wealth.
You can still choose to work towards being healthier, no matter what your genetics.
The point is—you can mold, shape and manifest (if you wanna get all spiritual) a life that feels better to you (or that is closer to your dream life) by simply learning to be way, way, way more choosy about your choices.
Here are some examples (and they work if you actually do them…so do them gosh darnit!)
Instead of feeling_____________ when I am driving and that person doesn’t use their turn signal, I choose to feel___________ (you are working towards putting something a bit more positive and good feeling in the second space)
Rather than thinking______________when my checking account balance is under $50, I will instead choose to think______________(you are aiming to come up with a feeling that is a slight improvement from the first feeling. If you truly feel panicked about not having enough money, you probably won’t force a feeling of total confidence about it. But you can find a thought/feeling that is a bit better than panic)
I could really tell that person to_______________ right now, but I will choose to think, do or say ____________because that is a better energy and I know (in the long run) this will raise my vibration and deliver boatloads of life goodies my way.
My back hurts, I will never lose this weight, my parents were like this, so I am stuck with it. Basically, my health is_________. And I also know that I co-create my reality with thoughts, feelings and actions, so if I truly want to be a health machine, I better change my thoughts, feelings and actions. I will work on feeling more___________about my health and come up with ways to support a healthy lifestyle rather than adding to the negative energy that perpetuates it.
*** so the idea here is to fill in the first blank with the actual thing you may feel in that instance. And the second or third blanks, you are reaching for a better thought or feeling. It does NOT have to be fake or forced, just a slight energetic improvement. And in the end, even if all this hocus-pocus manifesting stuff doesn’t work (I wholeheartedly DON’T believe that, because I am living, breathing proof it does) you will at least learn a method to feel a bit better when the going gets tough.
So fill in the blanks of your life with new, better feelings and thoughts. It really does work, but not if you only think about it here and there and get lazy pants about it.
If you want the change, you gotta change. You have to choose differently.
Rip that bandaid off and get it over with already!
p.s always cheering you on…..always.
Enjoy my latest contribution in Elephant Journal! Just a little ditty about the great lessons I learned from my Ashtanga yoga practice…..and meeting my ego head-on.
If you’re not into yoga, that’s ok! Our ego’s (those pesky, yet great teachers) can show up in all sorts of places—not just the yoga room.
The message? Learn to listen and get tuned into a healthy sense of growing and challenging yourself versus the unhealthy pushing which can lead to torn body parts(like my hamstring), messed up relationships, hurt feelings and all sorts of drama.
Skip the drama, love that ego and ask it kindly to step down, because it’s not leading the show. Your healthy, conscious and aware self can handle the job just fine!
Today feels like a great day to begin a soul cleanse.
A soul cleanse—oh yes, yes, yes!!! What the heck is that, you ask?
A soul cleanse is a deep look into what is working/not working in our lives.
A soul cleanse begins with asking— “what uplifts me, what inspires me, what turns me on and gets me fired up, makes me laugh, smile and feel playful?”
What makes me feel good. Really good?
And conversely it asks “what is dragging me down, sucking my energy, leaving me feeling depleted, bored, sad and tired?”
What is making me feel crappy?
A soul cleanse is about weeding out what doesn’t feed your higher purpose in life. And it makes room for more light, love and connectedness to the Source of all life.
Then take note. Allow this new space of openness, shedding of old s**t and letting in of the wanted, the pure, the beautiful and the true.
And if this feels to . . . woo-woo . . . too “out there”—then simply do a little mini cleanse. This can be cleansing your e-mail account of old emails and unsubscribing from lists that don’t add something of value to your life.
It can be getting super honest and clear about what you choose to do with your extra time in life. Is watching TV at night really uplifting you? (and the answer can be YES. The answer doesn’t have to be NO. If watching a couple hours of mindless TV at night helps you relax and it’s working for you—then the only thing you need to drop is the guilt about it and just enjoy it—guilt free.)
You could also do a mini juice cleanse (I am starting the blueprint cleanse in a couple days . . . LOVE this one. I always come out of a juice clean feeling super alive.) Or you could commit to removing junk food from your life for a couple weeks.
The sky is truly the limit. The point of a soul cleanse is to just accept, own and embrace the fact that you have all these delicious CHOICES in this life. And what you choose—impacts your life on so many levels.
So, I say—CHOOSE THOSE THINGS THAT GET YOU CLOSER TO THE TRUTH OF WHO YOU ARE—YOUR SOUL.
Ask that beautiful soul, today, right here and now—what you can do for it.
And just listen. Listen to that part of you that knows, knows exactly what it is that you need.
What did I discover from sitting on the beach for 9 days?
Mainly, I learned that I like sitting on the beach for 9 days! Who doesn’t, right?
But it certainly didn’t start out that way.
I was checking my phone, fidgeting and generally struggling to relax.
I was also REALLY judging that guy with the selfie pole. Who created this? Lord help us.
It honestly took me about 3 days to settle into vacation mode and allow my body, mind and spirit unwind a bit.
And it got me thinking . . . I think for most of us, it can be a challenge to settle into vacation mode when we spend most our time in “get it done” mode.
So it’s critical that we learn ways to drop in FASTER, so we can enjoy MORE and stress LESS.
Here is a quickie list for learning to quiet your mind and settle into vacation mode quicker, faster and more efficiently—
- The week before you leave for vacation—plan on getting through your to-do list at least 2 days early. This was you won’t feel rushed to the finish line (departure date)
- Print out all your travel stuff, itineraries, places to eat, etc.. at least 2 days before you go. The goal is to really get all loose ends tied up 2 days before you leave, so the two days before you leave, you can calmly and enjoyably pack and take care of any last minute things that didn’t get done from the to do list.
- Set an intention for you trip. Don’t just wing it. Why are you going? What’s the main pull? Set an intention for smooth travel, enjoyable people sitting next to you on the plane (one can dream). Pre-pave your vacation as being super relaxing even before you arrive.
- Once you arrive at your destination, unplug. You will survive if you don’t check Facebook and Instagram for a week. You will live. If you can’t totally unplug (oh,come on, just do it) then make a commitment to yourself to only check in once a day. Really, unplug.
- LET IT GO. Have fun, unwind. Be present. Let go of your concerns and fully immerse yourself into where you are at—if it’s the beach, get in the water, try something new, order drinks with cute umbrellas. If you’re in Europe, don’t be a stodgy American—try the food, attempt to learn the language, see the sites, be patient and enjoy the culture. Wherever your travels take you, make a sincere effort to BE PRESENT and enjoy the experience.
The main thing to remember is—what’s the point in taking all the time, spending all the money, if you’re just going to be taking pictures with your selfie pole the entire time, or staring at your phone?
The purpose of getting away—is to get away. It’s to drop into a new experience, do something different and let our minds relax. Because in that, we get inspired. We grow. We make room for the next big thing in our lives.
So go take a trip.
Get to know new people. Try some weird food and learn how to say thank you in a new language.
Get out there an explore. And chill out and be a nice, patient, conscious traveler when you’re doing it.
p.s. In the 2 choices world—you are either doing things that line you up with living an amazing life, or you are choosing things that keep you separate from that. And it ultimately comes down to learning how to manage your thoughts and feelings. To learn more about the 2 choices, check out my book on Amazon. And choose wisely!
Excellence is a habit, just as much as a lack of excellence is a habit.
But what is excellence?
In my world, which is a world based on a strong connection to the divine (God, Source, Spirit, whatever word you choose)—excellence isn’t so much about the stuff you have, the letters after your name, or the tax bracket you are in.
And it is for sure not about being perfect.
It’s about the quality of life you have.
Excellence (in The 2 Choices world)—is about how you feel and how connected and in love with life that you are. It’s also about feeling a sense of inner success—that you’re on track, pointed in the right direction and feeling generally super ON FIRE about your life.
It’s about your evolution, and your overall energetic offering to the world.
Yep–it’s about energy.
And yep—it’s about the CHOICE to do things in a way that get your energy up**, so you can attract more divine gifts (quality food, nice things, luxury, travel, love, health, joy, harmony).
Excellence is a habit. Happiness is a habit. Success and living lives that really feel good—are all habits.
And habits are a choice. And if you’ve been following me for anytime at all—you know I am all about the power of choice.
If we truly desire to change any little or big thing in our life—and create a sense of excellence—we need to choose it.
And then choose it over and over and over again (create a habit out of it).
Yes, Aristotle is spot on—excellence is a habit. And I may add to that—
Excellence is a choice.
The following list is what I personally follow on a day to day basis that has turned my life around—180 degrees.
And I say this with a sense of humility, grace and gratitude.
There is no chest pounding here.
It’s an honest soul share—from me to you.
I was broke and broken. I was confused, sad and angry. I felt lost and bored with my life.
And then I found a way out. That way out (and through) has gifted me with—world travel, incredible personal and professional relationships, peak health, financial abundance, real joy, and a deep sense of gratitude. .
I want everyone to feel this way.
The list . . . 11 Daily Habits to Create Excellence
Creating your own unique personal excellence routine is one of the most amazing forms of self love and self care that you can gift to yourself. I fully encourage you to use the one I created, or come up with your own!
Just as we get into habits that don’t support our dreams and desires and life—we can create new habits that do support what we want. And in the end—it is a choice.
If anything, remember that each day, how you live your life—is a gift and a choice.
I sincerely hope you choose to love the heck out of each day.
p.s. I will be in Paris, Provence and Rome this May-June, scouting for retreat locations, book business + to follow through with a spiritual calling that has been growing stronger and stronger (it has to do with Mary Magdalene). Excited to share this next evolution with you all.
**up also meaning aligned, pure and free of mixed vibrations or energy frequencies.
I love pictures. They really are worth a thousand words. This picture is one I considered using for The 2 Choices—because to me, it really does a pretty good job of eliciting a response.
One apple is looking good, the other is looking oh, so sad.
One is bright, full of life, healthy and tasty. It’s gonna taste good and most likely, will be an overall good experience.
The other, however, really doesn’t look too appealing. It probably isn’t going to taste that good and may even get you sick. It’s not nice to look at and, well, the one on the left is going to be the most obvious best choice—in most cases.
In most cases, we aren’t going to choose the bad apple. In most cases, if we are concerned with choosing things that support us, feed us and are generally—tasty—then the ripe apple is the obvious choice.
And it’s not just like this when we are choosing fruit.
It’s like this with anything we choose in life. Right down to the people we hang out with, the thoughts we choose to think, and the feelings we choose to feel.
How you experience your life—good apple, or bad apple—is a choice.
And, there will be times, when we choose the bad apple.
Sometimes consciously and other times, because we just don’t know yet— we haven’t had that bad apple experience— so we don’t know it to be a bad apple.
And, that, in and of itself, can be a good thing, that bad apple.
Yes, sometimes the bad apple can be the good apple.
When we choose to learn, grow, become more conscious and aware of just what that bad apple meant to us.
It’s when we don’t learn and continue patterns of “bad apple” behavior and choices—that things can really turn rotten.
So, we can see those rotten apples as great teachers, ready to turn into the compost pile ( to feed and nurture), or feed to the chickens (who will greatly appreciate their rotten-ness) We can use them for good.
And we can turn what appears to be a bad thing—into a great thing.