My top 10 self-help books (that really help)

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I know some self help books can get sort of (yawn) BORING.  But I do have a list of favorites that have helped me personally to achieve greater wealth, health + happiness.

My Top 10—

  1. Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brene Brown.  I love this book because it deals with two things that are very close to home for me—courage and vulnerability. All of Brenes books are amazing, but this one really spoke to me. If you are ready to ditch feeling small and incapable and ready to recognize your true potential—give it a read!
  2. The Game of Life and How to Play it (Prosperity Classic) by Florence Scovel Shinn.  This book is super old school, but well worth a look. The author show you how to increase your results in your life with the power of the spoken word. It’s basically manifesting 101 using the power of words. There is a strong Christian slant to it, but I consider myself to be more spiritual than religious and I still go back to this book again and again. 
  3. Fire Starter Sessions by Danielle LaPorte. What’s not to love about Danielle? I also love her most recent book The Desire Map, but Fire Starter Sessions in my favorite! This book got me totally fired up and ready to create. 
  4. Carry on Warrior: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life by Glennon Doyle Melton. This is part self-help and part memoir. Glennon’s book was one of those that I couldn’t put down—from start to finish. I could relate so much to her (funny  and frightening) stories about addiction and downward spiral. The book is really worth the read if you’ve ever struggled with self worth issues, addiction or shame/guilt in your life. She also has an incredible online community called Momastery. 
  5. 7 Habits of Highly Successful People by Stephen Covey I love this book because it has a lot to do with my topic of CHOICE! I think I first scanned this book on my dads book shelf way back when. It’s old school and highly worth the read. This book consistently makes it on many “best books” lists. 
  6. The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace T. Wattles This book is somewhat of a cult classic and is along the vein of Think and Grow Rich and The Richest Man in Babylon (also great reads . . .)  This book gets into the psychology and mindset of creating abundance. If I notice myself slipping into old patterns, I pick this one up again and get back on track. 
  7. The Law Of Attraction: The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham by Esther and Jerry Hicks. I first learned about manifesting and law of attraction through the Abraham-Hicks material and it has changed my life. They were really the pioneers of LOA and manifesting (even though The Secret would claim otherwise). All their book are great and truly helpful if you believe in LOA and manifesting (try it, it just may change your life!)
  8. Boundaries:  When To Say Yes, How to Say No by Henry Cloud.  I added this book to my kindle awhile ago and forgot about it (hmmm, interesting how sometimes we block out the things that would be the most helpful)  This book is CRITICAL for anyone who struggles with healthy boundaries. 
  9. Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert. What’s not to love about Elizabeth Gilbert? Her book, Eat, Pray, Love was such an inspiration and Big Magic is another great read by this author. I had a chance to see her recently on her book tour for Big Magic and I love her take on living a creative life. 
  10. The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle.  This is just a must. When you can get to the place when you are operating your life from the “right here, right now” place—you win. 

I have about 50 more I could add to this list, but I chose these as my top 10 because I feel each one of them has had a significant impact on at least one area of my life.  The key with any sort of self help or personal development tools—is to make the choice to actually USE them.

They can’t work if we don’t work them. 

What are some of your top self-help or non-fiction books? I would love to know!

Big Blessings,

xxoo

Carrie

 

When life gets messy

1messy lifeWho doesn’t have problems?
 
Who doesn’t have concerns, worries and frustrations?
 
Most of us, living on this planet have an issue every now and then (understatement).
 
We have health concerns, environmental concerns, money issues, relationship frustrations, car problems, boss problems, cranky kids—life problems.
 
It’s not perfect or pretty (or seemingly fair) all the time. Not even.

 

Sometimes life just gets messy (as in red-hot mess, messy)

 
And in the not so distant past . . .  that has bothered me a tad.  It had me asking big questions like—

 

  • Why are we even here if it’s such a struggle?
  • Why do we get on such a great life high— only to have shitty things happen?
  • Why cant it just be easier?
  • Why are people so insensitive (or worse)?​
  • Why can’t we all just be born with lasting heath, endless supplies of money and unquestionable values, morals and common sense?
 
Most of us ask these questions (or similar versions or these) at some point.
 
We all get hurt and we all find ways (hopefully) to rebound when life deals us an unwanted hand.
 
And what if . . . ​
—the problems we have are merely opportunities to grab ahold of an even bigger, more profound level of joy, happiness, health and abundance?
—the struggles, pain and hurdles are simply minor road bumps that (with patience, compassion and maybe a couple bottles of good vino) can propel us closer to living our desires?
 
What if the problem has a purpose?
 
Because haven’t you noticed that when you experience something challenging and you approach it from the  “glass half full” perspective—you come out the other side of that with a greater sense of knowing, faith and acceptance?
 
When you can make peace with what is + see the potential gift in the problem—you win.
 
It comes down to this—you have two choices in regards to how you handle snafus, issues, drama + problems—

 

  • You can see every problem a gift. You can see perceived problems as beautiful opportunities for an even deeper sense of acceptance, love and faith. You can see your health issues, your money issue, and your relationship issues—as a great big chance to get super honest and real about what you are truly feeling and thinking in life. It’s a chance to be 100% accountable for your energy. ​

 

  • Or there’s always choice two. Choice two is to stay stuck, give into the problem, believe it and go down the rabbit hole of despair, disease, distrust and fear. Choice two is the one that perpetuates the lie that we are powerless. Choice two, if we don’t learn from it and turn it from foe to friend—is the one that can wreak havoc on your otherwise incredible life.  This choice moves you further away from the life you want. It’s simply the choice to survive (or nose dive) get by, exist and feel more as a victim in life. 
 
You have two choices—to thrive or survive.
 
And when you choose well (in spite of what trials and tribulations are manifesting in your life)—you turn your problem into pure passionate potential.
 
Bad ass, unwavering, passion-filled potential.
 
When you decide to make peace with the problem—you say ‘yes” in an even bigger way to your desires.
 
It’s how we create miracles. It’s how we go on when the going gets tough.
 
So next time you feel irritated, annoyed or let down, ask yourself—”what is this problem teaching me, or asking me to step into and how can I learn quickly, efficiently and lastingly?”
 
Because don’t we all want to learn, move on, grow and be better than we were the day before?
Don’t we all want to be happier, healthier, wealthier and more in alignment with our souls truth?
 
I say yes.
 
Bucket loads of love, goodness + joy your way.

xo

Carrie