I am all about energy. You are all about energy (whether you believe it or not). Life is all about energy.
After years of trying to figure out how to manifest what I wanted (and boatloads of failures) what I realized is that I was trying to pretend my way into things, rather than actually feeling my way into them—authentically. And then there were other times, that I just wasn’t being conscious at all about how I was feeling. I just sort of letting my feelings run the show.
In other words, I was pretending to feel happy, successful, forgiving or joyful—when I really felt shitty, blameful, sad and annoyed.
Crap, that’s no fun.
I wasn’t fooling myself and I definitely wasn’t fooling the universe.
The world of manifesting (the idea that we attract back what we primarily give out) is a world of energy.
And you can’t trick the universe into believing that you are feeling something you aren’t. It doesn’t work that way.
The way it works is that you must first identify HOW IT IS THAT YOU WANT TO FEEL.
That is the starting point.
Most people stumble through life not really giving too much conscious thought to how it is they truly want to feel. We may think we do, but how many of us truly create a life based on a conscious awareness of how we want to feel minute to minute?
I am guessing that most people don’t give it much thought. Most of the time, we are actually just on autopilot with our feelings and are run by them, rather than being a conscious co creator with them.
Our feelings are the guide to our energy.
So, first you gotta—
- IDENTIFY HOW IT IS THAT YOU WANT TO FEEL
And once you understand how you want to feel, it’s time to—
- SORT OUT THE HOW-TO OF IT ALL
How do we work with our feelings (that sometimes feel so automatic and out of our ability to influence) when annoying shit is really happening?
I mean, how are we supposed to FEEL AMAZING, when there are so many things out there that seem to be working towards making us feel NOT AMAZING?
You gotta make a choice.
YOU MUST CHOOSE to stay committed to how you want to feel (beautiful, connected, loved, sensual, happy) in the face of life’s little mishaps and misfortunes.
This doesn’t mean you don’t acknowledge feeling annoyed by the justifiably annoying. It doesn’t mean ignoring the truth of how you feel.
It means saying “hey, I am annoyed, irritated, angry, etc…..and I know that staying in this state is NOT an energy I want to give out (or attract back to me) so I am going to acknowledge the truth of how I feel and let it go, because it’s not how I really want to feel.”
Then you go back to identifying HOW YOU WANT TO FEEL and create an arsenal of things you can do to get you right back into those desired feelings ASAP.
Maybe you can do some of these things to get back to your desired feelings—laugh, read a book you love, smile more, take a shower, go for a walk, sit under a tree, sing, dance, have a cup of your favorite tea, calla friend, breath more deeply, do some yoga, play with your dog, hug your kids, dream, light a candle, take a bath, eat some chocolate, scream in a pillow, cry, kiss, buy some flowers, remember something that makes you smile and laugh.
Create your own quick-list of things that you can do—lickety-split—to get out of a funk and back towards fantastic . . . or just a bit better even.
Your energy is amazing. It’s powerful and it’s a choice. Your energy is amazing because it’s the secret sauce of your life. Your energy is amazing because it directs the flow of your life. That flow can be a good one, or it can be turbulent. But it’s all a choice.
Choose to feel, think and be the sort of person that you enjoy being around. And then watch the miracles start to unfold.
SOMETIMES THE THINGS WE FEAR THE MOST . . . . .
Are the very things we need to experience and move through in order to get to the happy, connecting, real and beautiful elements of our lives that WE HAVE BEEN ASKING FOR. Sometime you may have to S-T-R-E-T-C-H out beyond your comfort zone in order to get that next thing on your wish list.
When reflecting back over this last year—there have been a few eensie weensie (understatement) growing pains in my life.
(And there were massive, super-wow, incredible, joy-filled moments of bliss, connection, beauty and truth)
There was the discomfort of knowing that I wanted certain things, but was truly afraid to admit it to myself.
Who am I to want…..this?
Who am I to deserve………that?
There was the fear that no matter what I did—it wouldn’t be good enough. EVER.
There was the fear I wouldn’t finish it.
There was the confusion over HOW to do it.
There were the comparisons and the negative chatter of my runaway brain.
There were moments I wanted to quit, hide, run and be a big cry baby ( or just have a good cry)
There were moments I felt guilty, ashamed, stuck and unheard.
And then, I surrendered to all of it and just said ……OK.
And in return, I won’t give into fear. I will choose love and I will choose faith.
I brought an attitude of “this or something even better please” over “oh shit, not this again!”
I never took my eyes off of what I asked for.
Unwavering (and still scared)
In moving through the seemingly insurmountable mountains that life sometimes places in our path—is the beauty inherent in the mountain.
Is the beauty in the struggle.
Is the light in the darkness.
Is the “BIG A-HA” waiting for us on the other side of the challenge, when we get to see what we are really made of and just how magnificent and powerful we are.
I know, this isn’t a major new idea…….that great things can come from the not so great things, but I just wanted to share(from a very real, heartfelt place) just how incredible it is when you surrender, know you’re love and just simply be that.
It doesn’t have to be such a big, hairy deal—life.
It’s all ok. It’s better than ok. In fact, it’s what we make it.
It all comes down to a choice.
The choice to live in fear. Or the choice to live in LOVE.
I choose love. And super-wow.
For my readers who don’t know, I just made a massive move from Oregon to South Carolina.
And for those of you who also may not know—it was a monumental deal.
Phew………like a serious massive deal. Yowza.
I am not at all afraid of change. In fact, I would say I am one of those people who require change in my life, or I get bored (and then I get feisty).
But this move wasn’t just a geographical move. It was a spiritual, next phase, evolution, growth and big leap move.
It was a move that stretched me to ask the bigger questions, to get more in tune and connected with my desires and to really get clear about why I am here and what I am doing.
You see, you don’t get to where you want to go (at times) without a bit of stretching—without a bit of fear, discomfort and YOWZA.
I am not saying it is required to feel crappy in order to feel good or to reach a new goal or intention in life, but there are times that the contrast we feel when we are going through big changes, won’t feel so amazing.
In fact, it may be a stretch to keep going.
But in hindsight, all the things that came my way, were things I asked for!
I asked for a change, I asked for my next growth phase. I asked and then I received and then . . . . I kicked and screamed a little bit. It wasn’t until I surrendered and just moved forward in faith, that the miracles started showing up.
What I know and what was confirmed to me in facing this challenge, was that we are all so awesome. And that we all have everything we need to face any challenge that comes our way.
We are gifted life. We are given opportunities to see the truth or we can choose to give into illusions.
The illusion is that you are weak, you aren’t good enough and you can’t do it.
The illusion is that you don’t have 100%, full on 24/7 support.
That is the illusion.
The truth is that you can do it.
The truth is that you DO KNOW (so stop telling yourself you don’t).
The truth is that you are loved. The truth is that you can live your desires from a most magical and miraculous place (I am living proof).
The only thing that limits you, is a choice you make to believe your limitations + illusions.
You are awesome. You are light. You are love.
You are a little bit superwoman.
That is the truth.