“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.”
Wow, did this Maya Angelou quote jump out at me today!
Not that I am equating myself to a butterfly, because I still have my moments when I feel like I am still in the caterpillar stage (and that’s not such a bad thing!)
But today is the birth of my first book and it has me a bit reflective (and nervous!)
The journey really started about 10 years ago, when I took a trip to Brazil for spiritual healing and has been, as the saying goes— a real trip since then.
As I see the posts going about the book, I feel deep gratitude, a bit of nervousness and mostly happy. There are tears and there are butterflies (of excitement, of course!)
And, I know this is just a transition, a metamorphosis, another twist and turn in the story.
Today is the day I get to celebrate the growth, the struggle, the triumphs and the days I just wanted to give up.
But I knew I had 2 choices—to sink or to soar.
Soaring feels much better—even with all the tough patches in between. Because it really is about what we learn along the way, as cliche as it sounds.
So . . . SOAR. And soar some more.
Be relentless in your pursuit to be happy, to come out of your cocoon, your safe haven and celebrate your own transformation into the beautiful soul that you are.
Ok, so for today, I will see myself as the butterfly. Feels good!
Here is the link to the book details! Thanks so much to each and everyone of you for your support and well wishes.
Much, much love,
Freaking out isn’t an energy or vibration that you want to hold onto for very long.
Freaking out can be:
- Obsessing about a future event.
- Not letting go of a negative past event.
- Reacting to situations or people in a less than savory way (you are being a reactive meany pants)
- Letting your thoughts and feelings rule you.
- Repeating the same patterns in your life that keep you stuck, resentful, upset, worried or any other emotion that is holing you back.
- Turning to unhealthy ways of coping like drinking, binge eating or other behaviors that are self harming.
So, freaking out really doesn’t mean you are screaming at the top of your lungs at someone or flipping them off when they don’t use their turn signals.
It can be little ways that you sabotage your inherent power by choosing to stay stuck in ways of being in the world that don’t truly serve you. Let’s just say freaking out can mean holding yourself back by choosing, either consciously or unconsciously, things that prevent you from living the life you really want to live.
Do these following things instead, when you feel yourself starting to freak out a little bit or when you notice that things aren’t changing for you, or the same bad shit happens over and over again.
- Instead of going into, “But I am right, why are these people so incompetent, slow, lame, asleep, mean—choose to have your moment to feel irritated, upset, let down and pissed off and then move off that feeling and choose one that feels better. Even if it’s just an eensie-weensie bit better, choose to find a feeling/thought that is an increase in vibration from where you currently were.
- Breathe. Breathe. Breathe. There is nothing like taking time to breathe and slow things down to bring us back into alignment with what it is we truly desire and to put things all in perspective.
- Exercise, move your body, dance, do yoga, get your heart pumping and your blood flowing. Exercise works. It’s an instant mood shifter.
- Listen to some of your favorite music, sing, dance, work it out.
- Give yourself a few minutes to let it out . . . do allow a bit of the freak out–out. Let the energy of what you are feeling to be felt. Feel it, then let it go.
- Laugh. Go see funny movie, or read something that makes you laugh.
- Smile. Just practice smiling more. It’s a proven fact that making an effort to smile more throughout the day, shifts your mood.
- Breathe. I know I already listed this, but this is the one that is so simple and has the biggest impact. When you wanna freak, stop and breathe. Breathe into the frustration, the annoyance, the rage, the entitlement, the disappointment. Breathe and then become committed to breathing more, deeper and more consciously. This, above anything else, is the key to shifting a freak out sesh.
How we react, how we feel and what we think are all choices. And our choices are essentially our vibration, and our vibration is what we consciously, or unconsciously are attracting back to us.
So, freak less and choose to vibrate at a level which feels good. Choose energy that says yes to love, healing, abundance, joy, peace, harmony and lots of goodness.
Holy smokes people, The 2 Choices will be available next week. Yippee! Yahoo! Woohoo! Heck yah! About time!
The process of writing this book was a step into more of the truth of who I am—not just me, Carrie Jolie Dale, but ME— the soul who came here to experience the fullness, the beauty and the true splendor of life.
The ME who came here to grow, to live, to surrender, to push through doubt and fear, to feel what it feels like to stretch beyond what I think I can do and go to places I never thought I could.
Will my book change history? Mmmmm, maybe not. But that would be super cool!
But what it will do is place another little ray o’sunshine in the world because another little soul here answered the call of her soul (that would be me).
I followed my truth, believed and I surrendered.
I believed, even when I wanted to quit, to throw in the towel and give up. Because, the truth is, it wasn’t easy. It was hard. There were days I wanted to sit under a tree and watch bugs rather than sit, write and figure out marketing, font styles, cover designs and networking.
And what I want you to know, and what I want to impress on you very, very strongly, is that it feels SO GOOD to be (almost) on the other side of this journey.
I want to simply be a reminder, a gentle nudge, a pleasant suggestion or a strong, firm voice in your head—that you can do it.
You can write your book, paint you masterpiece, forgive that person, lose that weight, eat that cake (a little dorky rhyme there) and you can be you, simply YOU….and that’s all that is required to live an outstanding life.
Is it always easy to be truly who we are? No. Will people be angry at you for stepping into your truth? Maybe.
But when we are beacons of light for our truths, it feels better. Plus, when we allow our brilliance to shine, it reminds others that they can too!
Be you. Choose you. Choose that thing that lights you up. Choose to do that thing, say that thing, go to that place. Choose to let go of what doesn’t feed and nurture your soul and walk gently and so knowingly into the YOU that you are here to be.
p.s Oh, the book launch. You can buy the book next Thursday! I will send more details as the day approaches, but what would be so cool and uber appreciated is if you could spread the word, the gospel, share the love and let everyone you know that you think may like this book, to buy the book on July 31st!
Just because someone knows how to say “namaste,” meditates and reads spiritual books—doesn’t mean we give them their ghandi badge and that they somehow radiate white light out of their crown chakra and never have a bad day again.
Being spiritual doesn’t mean you don’t have shitty days, swear, digress and experience contrast or negative things in your life. It doesn’t mean you don’t eat some junk food every now and then or maybe react in a less than stellar way to a challenging situation.
And actually, I feel the more committed you are to your growth and awareness, the more you will be “gifted” opportunities to see just how good you are at it.
In other words, when you ask, it is given. And there will be times when what is given to you are massive opportunities to grow into your next best self . . . and that isn’t always easy.
You will be asked to be patient, forgiving, to move out of your comfort zone, to react in different ways, to release old patterns of thought, to be more aware of your feelings and to consciously guide them, rather than having them run you.
And being on a spiritual path means being committed to growth, evolution and getting back on track, faster and with less struggle than the time before. It means getting back in the saddle a bit quicker and less effortlessly than the time before.
How I see it is that when I grow and reach a new “level” of mastery or growth in my life, and then I digress or do something out of alignment with my truth—it hurts a little more.
For example, I really want to be a person who, in each moment, strives to see the best in situations. I desire, quite simply, to be “in the loving” as one of my spiritual mentors says. Does that mean I always nail it? Oh no, not always. I swear, think bad thoughts, have judgments about people or situations and react in ways I am not always proud of.
But what I have noticed is that it almost physically hurts me when I do. It hurts to be unkind, judgmental, out of alignment with my truth and not in the loving.
It hurts now, whereas before, I didn’t notice it quite this intensely.
Why? Why would it hurt to be out of alignment, to not speak our truths or follow our path in life? Why does it feel so off when we get off track?
It hurts because when we ask to grow, to evolve and to the best version of ourselves–and then we step out of that and slide backwards—we get a gentle (or maybe not so gentle) reminder that we are off track.
Quite simply, if you truly strive to be on a path which leads you to your best life, your best self and a deep connection to God, Source, consciousness—whatever you choose to call it—it won’t feel good when you aren’t those things. It won’t feel good when you get off track.
It won’t feel good to go back to old ways of feeling, thinking and behaving. Once you start to get a more clear picture of who you are and what you want—it won’t feel good to hide, digress and disallow the miracles to flow in your life.
We are all pure light and love, but we forget it.
Being on a spiritual path is really remembering the truth of who we are. And so our feelings are a great indicator of how on or off track we are in life.
It’s not about beating ourselves up when we yell at the driver in front of us for not using their turn signal. It’s not about feeling intense guilt about reacting to someone in a toxic way.
It’s about listening to that feeling that comes up when we do get off track and choosing to do it differently next time.
That is growth. That is evolution. That is being spiritual.
I know meditation is a 10 letter word, but for many of us (who abhor sitting still for long) it’s more like a 4 letter word.
You feel me?
I tried for YEARS to fall in love with meditation. I tried to find inner peace, harmony and tranquility with this simple little practice.
And I just felt predominately bored, irritated, anoyed and frustrated from doing it.
Until . . . . I found the 3-minute meditation that has changed how I feel about meditating and more importantly—has shifted my life in miraculous ways.
(If you aren’t into woo-woo, then you probably won’t like this, but if you aren’t into trying new things, you probably won’t get different results either . . . just saying.)
Here is what you need:
- Quiet, distraction-free space for 3-minutes
- A candle or some other item that makes you feel centered and grounded. We are aiming to create a ritual, so choose something that makes you feel good.
- A clock or timer
- Commitment to put your very best into this 3 minutes
- Set an intention either in your mind or on paper for what you want to accomplish in this 3 minutes. Maybe it’s to prepare for a great day, an answer to a problem, money, healing for the world , health, love. . whatever you choose is perfect!
While this mantra/meditation is primarily used for abundance and prosperity, I have seen it create shifts in other areas as well. After all, abundance doesn’t only equate to money, it also corresponds to an abundance of love, health, joy and ________(insert your own word!)
Here is how you set up:
- Sit cross legged, bent knees or whatever feels comfortable, but preferably sitting upright
- Light your candle or focus on your grounding object just to bring you fully into the moment
- Take 3-5 deep breaths and let go of any stress or tension
- Your eyes are 9/10th’s of the way open, but your gaze is toward the tip of your nose. With the gaze at the tip of the nose, we connect with our root chakra and stimulate Kundalini. It also stimulates the frontal lobe part of the brain. It is a soft, gentle gaze.
Here is the video for the 3-minute meditation/chant:
I hope you enjoyed this post and that it helps you get closer to a life you love and that lights you up. We are, after all, meant to enjoy the heck out of our lives. Why not?!!