I just finished reading the most amazing blog post by Danielle LaPorte. She swears, she philosophizes, she speaks her truth from a deep and real place.
Just like I have always wanted to do, but at times felt like . . .
- I couldn’t
- I shouldn’t
- People will think I’m a bitch
- They will see that I am flawed
- They will judge me
- They won’t opt in or I will lose subscribers
- It will sound too much like bitching and not enough like “spiritual speak”
- An evolved, spiritual person wouldn’t swear!!
- Evolved, spiritual people have self control and manners
And blah, blah, blah
You know, some of those things are just downright true, real and valid—and others are just silliness.
Still, our thoughts about ANYTHING (health, wealth, love) impact, guide, direct, shape and mold our reality. Our thoughts really are things and they do have the ability to direct the flow and fabric of our lives. So maybe there is “truth” in a thought, but just because it’s true for you, doesn’t mean it’s true for others. And just because it’s true for you, doesn’t necessarily mean it’s right for you either.
For example, we can believe it is very true that it’s not right to speak our truth if it could hurt someone else. But really, this is a stodgy old belief. I mean, yes, if your truth is just downright mean, then yah, edit it or tone it down. But if you truth is that it doesn’t feel good when someone gossips all the time or complains about their problems 24/7, then the best thing for you (and them) would be to create a healthy boundary around it and let them know you’re not ok with it anymore.
But sometimes, our thoughts about a situation like that may get in our way because we don’t want to hurt them . . . don’t want to make anyone feel uncomfortable or awkward . . . don’t want to rock the boat . . . don’t want to come across as mean . . . don’t want them to not like us . . . and on and on.
The deal-e-o is—truth is a subjective. Right is subjective. And obviously—thoughts and beliefs are subjective.
If we really want to attack any issue in our lives, it’s critical that we address it first, on the thought level.
Our thoughts have an energy and vibration to them that impacts and influences our outcomes.
So . . . to change the thing, change the thought. And to take it even further—to change the thing, change the feeling.
For the double whammy—change both!
If you really want to get super ninja about feeling alright, feeling badass and just feeling really damn good—then learn to be a master of your thoughts and feelings.
To be the maven or master of your feelings—meditate, pray, forgive, walk in nature, play with your dog, your kids, laugh, smile, eat what you want, exercise, juice fast on occasion, practice feeling good religiously, tap into what it is you are feeling and thinking—get connected to it.
Be aware of how you feel and what you are thinking. Then do it again. And again.
Learn to be an observer of your thoughts. Are they high vibe? Low vibe? Are they mostly negative, judgmental, contradictory to what you want? How does it make you feel to think what you think?
If we are choosy about what we eat, who we hang out with, how we dress, what we read, how we take care of our bodies, then why wouldn’t we be choosy about what we think?
When you choose your thoughts from a place of awareness and consciousness, you pave the way for choosing your life.
It’s not about being perfect or fitting into some preconceived ideal of what it means to be spiritual or evolved . . . but it is about committing to being aware of how you are choosing to feel and what you are choosing to think.
It is about being you, loving you and doing what feels right to you.
It’s NOT about spending your life trying to make everyone else happy, or being overly concerned about what they think about you.
Trust me . . . you won’t succeed at pleasing everyone, so you might as well start with pleasing you.
Choose thoughts that line up with the love you desire, the radiant health you want and the success and abundance you deserve.
Think it and feel it first, then just surrender and allow.
xoo (that’s one kiss and two hugs)
This will be short and sweet today. I write about things that I am personally experiencing in my life—or that are of particular interest to me.
And it’s confession time—sometimes I hide from my true power. In fact, most of us do. Most of us don’t even know what our true power is, how to find it…. or if we even want it.
How do you know if you are hiding from your true power?
- You feel empty
- You feel restless
- You feel like someting is missing
- You feel disconnected
- You are reactive and argumentative
- You have low energy
- You often feel “tested” by life
- The same patterns and issues keep resurfacing
- You have moments of clarity and lucidity, but you brush them off and don’t pay attention to the signs and signals the universe is giving you
- You just know. You can feel that you are meant to step into your next “level” but don’t know how, why and have some fear about changing.
And then what? What do we do when we know we are hiding from our true power? How do we discover it? Turn it on?
We turn it on by . . . .
- Being aware that we are disconnected from it in the first place
- Ditching excuses and being accountable
- Asking your higher power, God, source energy (whatever your version of it is) for help in connecting with your true power
- Tuning into and strengthening your intuition (meditation, nature, exercising…whatever raises your vibration)
- Engaging in things that make you feel good (raising your vibration)
- Going beyond our comfort zone and being willing to be uncomfortable at times (spiritual growth, being the best you can be, being happy and evolving aren’t always about fairy kisses, unicorns and rainbows….in other words—sometimes it’s hard!)
And once you tap into your true, conscious personal power, you will feel . . .
- At peace
What’s not to like about that? Hiding from your power is a choice and just as you can choose to hide, you can choose to discover and allow it.
Now that we are in another mercury retrograde, I think now is the perfect time to ditch the old patterns and choose your power. Your power that lights you up, puts a skip in your step and makes things happen.
Ever have those days when you just want to press pause? Like you just want to freeze everything for awhile so you can bask in quiet, peaceful and serene energy?
There is so much going on and the word “busy” has become the new anthem or badge of honor in our society. How many times do you hear from people how busy they are? More often than not, I am guessing.
We are all so busy. Busy, busy, busy. It’s almost like a sickness or something.
I mean I get the reality, that we all are truly busy! We have kids, jobs, to-do’s etc.… Trust me, I get it.
The busy I am referring to, is like we go on autopilot and shut off. It’s that busy that feels disconnected, rushed and without a sense of meaning. It’s like we bounce from thing to thing and don’t really get anywhere.
Sometimes it feels to me, like if we aren’t busy, or don’t feel busy, then it’s almost like we don’t feel useful or productive. What will people think of me if I am not busy? If I don’t have a big to-do list? If I have idle time? OMG, idle time? But isn’t that lazy, unproductive and useless?
No, not at all.
I am here to tell you that the EXACT thing you must do, if you want sanity, clarity, health, joy and increased personal success in your life—is to choose to take quality down time in your life.
Here are a few guidelines to consider when choosing your down time.
- Commit to at least one hour of down time a day.
- Eliminate distractions! During this time, shut off your phone, don’t be on the computer and make this YOUR TIME.
- Create a sacred ritual for your down time. Walk in nature, have a connecting talk with someone, meditate, do a yoga class . . anything that gets you feeling relaxed and more connected to you. This is not a time to cross something off your list. This is time for you to make a commitment to stop being busy and start being present in your life.
- Consistency. If this is just another thing you read and don’t actually implement, then there is no point. If you truly want to feel better, be healthier, wealthier and happier, then it’s critical to get off the busy-mobile and on the feel good bus. Feeling good raises your vibration and attracts more good things into your life. It’s universal law.
- Honor yourself. You are worth one hour a day! And if one hour is too big of a stretch, then start with 30 minutes. The point is to get in the habit of slowing down and being centered. The point is to be able to get quiet and still enough to hear yourself through all the self imposed “noise” that we create in our lives through being busy.
Learning to stop the habitual choice to be busy, is a critical step in really learning to master your life and your choices. Once you make a commitment to slowing down and savoring your down time, you will start to notice something. You will start to feel again. You will start to have ideas and more energy. You will get clarity about problems. You will feel a sense of freedom and lightness. You will attract more wanted things in your life.
If you want to live a truly satisfying life–one with peak health, success, love and happiness—you will need to make it a point to slow down, enjoy and go within on a consistent basis. This always works for me and it when I forget to take this down time, I get a very quick reminder. Things start to feel out of sync when I forget to commit to choosing me.
We are meant to enjoy—not spend it being asleep in a state of busy-ness. So take time for you slow down and savor your life.
I am gonna go chill out..